Married for 20 years but my desire for sex is as of a newly-married person
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.I have been married for 20 years but my desire for sex is as of a newly-married person. My wife, however, does not desire sex as much. Please let me know if this is normal. In the absence of my desire not getting fulfilled, at times I feel the need to go out and fulfil myself, but don’t want to cheat on my partner. What do I do?
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While it is perfectly normal for you to have a high sexual desire 20 years after marriage, it is also equally normal for some women to have a low sexual desire due to several reasons. A woman needs good feelings and experiences during the day to have healthy sexual desire in the bed. How her husband treats her out of bed greatly influences her response in bed. Building intimacy requires an ongoing recognition of the small, daily opportunities for tender connection. The more attentively you engage with your wife, the more natural and free-flowing your physical intimacy will become. Ask yourself what you can do to bring more depth into your relationship and make it more than sex – a sharing of intimacy. Couples who experience differences in their desire levels require to develop good communication skills so that they can freely express their feelings without hesitation and fear that they will be misinterpreted or misunderstood. It will be better if both of you speak freely on this subject and try to understand each other. You also need to deeply examine your relationship. You can either do this on your own or with the help of a good couple counsellor.