My BF (21M) insinuates i should change my (21F) body?

I don’t know if this is an overreaction on my behalf. For reference I am a 21 year old woman i am 166cm tall and around 60-62kg. I am not stick thin but i am not fat or overly muscular either.

One day when with my boyfriend he told me he likes women with abs . The comment came out of nowhere as we weren’t talking about this topic but I just brushed it off. A while later he asks several times what my “ideal body” would be. Again we weren’t really talking about this , so i vaguely answered ‘more toned’. He looks me up and down and feels my body and tells me “you should lose body fat then”. I was quite hurt by this as i didn’t ask him for any advice or start this topic of conversation. He gives me and estimate of what he thinks my fat% is. At this point i ask him if he thinks i’m fat and he says “he could help me and write me a workout plan.”

i expressed my hurt and we argued slightly he then apologised and said he was only trying to help. A few hours pass and i forget all about it . However again he brings up the topic and asks what my ideal body type would be , i said toned again. He then goes onto instagram and shows me some photos of fitness models asking if i want to look like this girl or this girl. Both girls were very similar – good muscles and abs.

I started to get even more upset as i didn’t see why he kept persisting with this topic . We argued and he got so mad he punched a wardrobe . He insisted he was trying to help me( i never asked for this).

I’m just confused as i am healthy and workout regularly , i know i am attractive so why has he done this ?

Tl;DR! Boyfriend keeps bringing up weight loss but i’m not fat