My bf (26 M) and I (26 F) are in a LDR and I am going insane
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Hi, my boyfriend and I met in a tier 1 bschool. We practically lived together for the 1.5 years we were there and now we are in a long distance relationship. Things were fine back then, he doesnt express much but his actions were kind and caring and there was a lot of reassurance. Recently in the long distance relationship, i have been feeling otherwise. I feel he doesn’t miss me or is just happy that he doesn’t have to see me now. I also feel that sometimes i become overbearing by my constant need for assurance but isn’t long distance all about that ? Do men stay in a relationship even when they stop liking their partners? Does he lowkey hope that I breakup with him someday? Does he even want to be with me? Does he even want a future with me? (He generally replies sarcastically whenever i ask him about it, haven’t really figured out what is he upto) I am stuck in this loop of either over validating my feelings or gaslighting myself. I don’t know how do i navigate through this ldr
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See LDR is definitely hard and all of your thoughts are normal. First accept that. Second, LDR does take more work. Both you and your partner should be in for that. Discuss with him and form a rhythm. When to talk? When to text etc and do make it clear to him what you need and vice versa. Also plan to meet each other at least every other week else the fire will die. And lastly, chill, relationships are meant to be fun; if it seems like too much work and that too only from your side then it wasn’t going to last anyways LDR or otherwise
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For long distance relationships, regular communication and understanding is necessary to keep bonding. Also , effort should come from both sides. I would suggest you to talk openly to him about your concerns. It sounds like he isn’t much serious about the relationship. It is better that you don’t keep too much hope to end up everything in favour of you .