My father-in-law has bad intention on me. How do I cope it?
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I’m Shruti, a 24 years old female and got married one year ago. In my in-laws home, there are only three members, me, my husband Manish 27 and my father-in-law Rajendra 53. My mother-in-law died of breast cancer two years ago. My husband is the only child of his parent. My in-laws are in business and they’re very affluent whereas I belong to a average middle-class family. Manish is a very good person and he loves me so much, and father-in-law also gives me daughter like love and affection.
After marriage, everything was going on right track. Three months ago, I observed that my father-in-law has lascivious intention on me, he often leers at my well endowed thing. One day, when my hubby was out of city, my FIL told me that he has having body ache so give him a body massage. That time I didn’t understand his bad intention. I understood him as my own father and started to massage him. After few minutes of massage, my FIL lifted his loin cloth, revealed his engorged thing and told me to massage it because it’s also paining.
I was shocked by his sudden, unexpected behaviour and scolded him badly that you should have shame on yourself for this immoral behaviour, I’m like your daughter. But shamelessly, he grabbed me and got his thing hold in my hand and squeezed my bosom and told me that quench my thirst only once, my thing is bigger than my son, it will give you more pleasure. I’ll make you a queen. I’ll give you money, jewellery and everything. That time he tried to give me some packets of thousand rupees note and a gold chain. Any how, I got freed myself from his grip and ran away from there and locked my room from inside.
Next day my husband came home. I told him everything honestly. A big fight happened in my home between father and son. In last, my FIL threatened my husband that I’ll dispossess you from my property, business and everything. My everything is self-earned and legally you don’t have any right on my single penny. If I’ll dispossess you then both of you will beg on footpath.
After this episode, my FIL has stopped to giving us any money. Without money, our condition became bad to worst. I can’t describe that what plight we’re enduring. I have to use old clothes in stead of sanitary napkin, I wear torn panty. These are only some examples. My husband has no professional qualification so that he get a good job. I’ve two unmarried younger sisters and my mayka is not very rich to help us financially to start any small business. My husband is searching a job very desperately and if he gets even a petty job then we’ll leave my FIL’s home.
My FIL often flashes his engorged thing and packets of note shamelessly in front of me to lure me. I’ve no temptation of my FIL’s huge thing and his money. Sometimes I feel to succumb, but my morality don’t allow me. I can’t understand that what should I do?
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It is very unfortunate that your FIL demands favor from you against money but never think of succumbing to your FIL’s wish otherwise it will lead to nastiest circumstances than this one. Accept that it is difficult time to outdo but you should not stop trying to kill dire time. Help your husband in finding a good job and give him moral support in this difficult time and this is what husband wife does.
Next time when your FIL comes to you, give him final warning that you will file a criminal case against him if he does not stop to compel you to do decadent things and stick to your words if he continues in his wicked conduct with you. There is no need to think second time to file case against him just go to police station and seek protection from such monster.
We can only offer you sympathy but believe me you will be out of such trauma with time. Ask your husband to start small job and you may join some work to support him financially. Both needs to stay determined not to succumb to your FIL’s wish as he is trying to clout your womanhood.
Just think that you are not alone in the world that needs to wear torn panty, need to use clothes instead of sanitary napkin and many more. It is time to be positive and keep trying hard to find a job and good life style.
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Hello Shruti,
If you don’t want to have sex with your father-in-law, then don’t have sex with him. It’s really that simple. Have you considered how he would explain himself to the rest of his family if you and your husband made it clear what this man is trying to do? He has far more to lose than you do when it comes to self-esteem. He is relying on being able to bully you and your husband into getting his own way, by threats of disowning his son.
I’m sorry to say but your husband is a bit spineless in this whole situation. Have you not considered moving to your parents house instead. Your father-in-law is hardly likely to want your parents to know what he is trying to force you into doing. The social scorn that he would face from all and sundry for his despicable behaviour is something that he really won’t want. Regardless, you and your husband should move out, and stop thinking about money and prestige. If your husband loves you, and you love him, then what’s stopping you from making a go of things on your own. The two of you don’t need anything but each other.
Sometimes it’s hard to see the wood for all the trees, and in your case, you can’t see past wealth and possessions to what is really important.When I say you, I mean you as in the pay review, not you as an individual. You have both lost sight of what really matters. He is trying to use his power and wealth to get his own way. If you let him, you will always be his slave, and your husband will be allowing it to happen.
You don’t want this to happen, so don’t let it!!!
Time for you and your husband to sort your life’s out. Start packing your bags, after you’ve spoken to your mum and dad, and told them the situation. If they love you, they will make room for you and your husband, because what they should really be concerned with is your happiness, not the prestige that is associated with marrying their daughter into a more wealthy family.
I hope this helps you to see what is really important you.