My husband has testosterone levels, so he is advising adoption or IVF
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.It’s been almost nine years since I have been married. Since the beginning, my husband had no interest in sex. Initially, I thought it could be due to some work- related stress and I gave him time, but whenever I brought up the topic, it would end up in an argument, where he would try and find faults in me. After a few years, I spoke with him again about it, this time involving his parents as well in the conversation, but nothing came of it. With the insistence of his family, when he got his tests done, we realised he has a major issue with his testosterone levels. The count is low, and he has been advised to take hormonal supplements for a year. I am just shattered and heartbroken. Moreover, he wants me to get an IVF done or have a child either through surrogacy or adoption. I am almost traumatised. I need your advice. I don’t know if I should continue this relationship. Please help.
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Reduced sex desire and infertility can result from low testosterone levels; the study of these hormones under medical supervision is the treatment. Even yet, counseling can help with ED and decrease of sex drive as these are primarily psychological issues. Thankfully, the majority are also transient. Performance anxiety, early ejaculation, physical attractiveness, pornography, excessive masturbation, unresolved stress, depression, or a different sexual orientation are some other possible causes of this. You should ask him politely what’s preventing him from experiencing sexual intimacy when you seat him down in a nonjudgmental environment. If you find yourself cutting him off when he’s speaking, practice listening more intently. Silence contains sympathy. He may shut down or feel made fun of when someone interrupts him. Let go of judgment and allow yourself to be open to discovering what sex means to each of you. All of these methods—IVF, surrogacy, or adoption—are perfectly acceptable for getting a child, but since one of you wants sex and your marriage is suffering because of unresolved sexual issues, you should address this issue before moving forward with planning a child.