My neighbour is pregnant. Who is the Father?
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Hello AA users,
I am a 21year old boy. I am a student. I have neighbours who are married couples. They have two kids. The husband doubted his wife of infidelity because she was looking young even after being a mother of two, though she is 29 years old. She was a college student and she wished to complete her education after her marriage.
Being a college student its normal that she has male colleague as friends. This was not liked by her husband and he always accused her of being characterless. I shared a good relation with the family and usually visit their house. With time, I became close to the family so they used to invite me for dinner. I used to witness the quarrels between them but they were not so big to be disturbing to someone else.
My neighbour’s wife became really close friend of mine and we were very frank with each other about all topics from childhood to adult stuff. She considered me as her younger brother but I had a liking and lust for her. But due to her decency and her kind behaviour with me I never tried to do anything wrong with her or seduce her.
Some days back, they had a fight and the husband left in anger. I went to her house and noticed that she was crying. I tried to console her and she told me that she was always faithful to her hubby and never cheated him. She said that she was being blamed for the sins she never committed, and said that she wished she would have comitted those. I consoled her and told her that its okay her husband was rude and not to cry and later told her that I liked her. We talked for a long time and ended up having sex with each other.
It has been more than 6months and we had been having sex every day when her husband goes to his office. A week ago, she said that she is 4 months pregnant but we dont know who is father of the baby, as she had been having sex with me and her hubby both. She believes that baby should be mine because 9 out of 10 times it was me with whom she was having sex the whole day for 6 long months.
I am really tense and dont know what to do. I am in this kind of situation for the first time. What if her husband comes to know about it? We both are scared and tensed too.
Please help.
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Since you and her husband have been having regular sex with her( assuming unprotected sex) the chances of the child being yours is roughly around 50:50.
However if you had used condoms, the chances of the child being yours would around 1-2%.
The husband is already doubting her loyalty towards him( and rightly so I might add), so there are very high chances that he might actually go ahead and do a genetic test on the child. If the child is his, you all can heave a sigh of relief and everything will be as it was and you can live your life just like before(I would suggest to use condoms the next time )
If the child is yours, the test will point out that the husband is not the father.
What would follow is the husband filing for a divorce and during that period he might physically/emotionally or sexually abuse his wife. While he is abusing the wife, you might step up and say your the father to protect her or she might say your the father. In either of these situations, the husband will mostly file an adultery charge and you can go to prison for around 2 years( you can take a bail, as it’s a bailable offence). And you/his wife can file a domestic violence case against him too.
But she shouldn’t worry as she won’t be going to prison.
Now all of this scenario is applicable if the husband is a non violent individual. If he has any connection to gangsters or has possession of guns, you already know where it’s going to go. So, you have to file for a protection detail on you with the police.
What can you do now after the fiasco ??
Well, you can be a man, step up to the plate and face the consequences or you can an irresponsible child, pack your bags and run away.
You just have to make the best out of a $hitty situation.
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You have both been monumentally stupid!!! It’s one thing to have sex with your neighbours wife; but to do so without either of you taking precautions against pregnancy, that really is beyond idiocy.
A couple of things about your letter I find truly amazing: this woman, who may be pregnant by you, you pain as a paragon of virtue, and her husband, you attempt to pin with a label as a rude uncouth and bullying man. One thing he most definitely is, is a cuckold, because the 2 of you have made him such. It does make me wonder whether all of his accusations may have had some basis in reality? There is not one shred of regret for your behaviour against him in this post. You point out that the woman had been hurt by his accusations, and said that she wished that she had been guilty of what he’d been accusing her of, but the speed with which you got her into bed would suggest that perhaps she’s not quite as innocent as you want to believe.
You have both been complete morons, but all the recriminations in the world aren’t going to change the situation you now find yourselves in. You won’t know which of you is the father until the child has been born, and you can have a DNA test. Quite how your wife can get hold of her husband’s DNA, without him wondering why she wants it (given that he is keen on accusing her of infidelity, with, it turns out, good reason), I don’t know. I suppose she could take a sample of his hair from a hairbrush, or next time they have sex, she could keep some of his semen for analysis. DNA samples are quite easy for you, as all that is needed is a little of your saliva. She would also have to take a DNA sample from the baby, which again would be simple enough, as all that would be needed is a little of the baby’s saliva. Having obtained the necessary samples, analysis would confirm who’s the daddy.
Supposing you are the father? What are you going to do about it? What would she want to do about it? And most importantly, what would her husband do about it? I’m forever going on about people starting things without thinking of the consequences of their actions, and here is a prima facae case!!! By your own admission, you have been lusting after her for some time, and and if she was as innocent as you depict her, you took advantage of her when she was at her most vulnerable. But she’s not blameless in this, as after the initial episode, the 2 of you have been carrying on for the last 6 months, by your own admission on a pretty much daily basis. Now her husband’s attitudes towards her prior to her infidelities with you, my have been groundless, but it has to be said that her behaviour with you would suggest that she may have been a little bit more than friendly with some of her male colleagues at college. I suppose it’s possible that her husband’s unpleasant behaviour towards her may have pushed her over the edge, when before your affair started, perhaps she was blameless. The thing is, the 2 of you are now having an extramarital affair, and the inevitable consequences of stupidity are growing inside her womb.
I think you’d better pray that she doesn’t reveal what has been going on to her husband, or you may find yourself on the wrong end of a good beating, if not worse. She has a vested interest in keeping quiet, as she has no desire to receive a beating herself. Regardless of who the real father is, this baby, when it is born, hopefully will be reared by her and her husband, as if he had fathered the child (and of course, he may well be the real father). You are obviously too foolish and immature to take on the responsibility of a newly divorced woman, with a newborn baby, and nowhere to live. Apart from anything else, I can imagine how your family would accept the news that you are responsible for causing a divorce, and are now a father with an unfaithful woman, 8 years older than you, iwith two other, older children, as your partner.
My advice to you is to stop this relationship, and keep away from seeing her on her own. If you stop seeing the family altogether, given her husbands well founded suspicious nature, you may cause him to suspect the very thing that you’re guilty of, but for everybody’s safety, most of all this poor unborn child, stop having sex with the woman, and start behaving like the family friend that the husband thought you were, even though the reality is that you were a Viper in the nest!!!
If you think I’m somewhat unsympathetic to your situation, you are right. I’m not concerned about morality, as a persons morals of their own responsibility. However the pair of you have displayed an almost bewildering level of stupidity, with the possible result that a child will be born that will cause so much enmity between a husband and his wife that it tears a family to pieces, or because neither of you gave a moment’s thought to taking some simple precautions!!!