My Wife has Fantasies about Swinging. I cannot even think about it. What to do?
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Hello,
I’ve been married for 8.5 years. Last year, I caught my wife in an affair with her elder cousin Brother and was devastated but somehow managed to keep our marriage intact.
Things improved between us since then and just to test my wife, I casually asked her whether she would still like to be with other men. To my surprise she replied in the affirmative. I got confused and to dig out more details, asked her to share her fantasies, which again took me by surprise!
My wife is suggesting that we indulge in swinging as she wants to see me with other women!!! I don’t know how to handle the situation, I just don’t see myself with other women. I’m not sure whether continuing with our marriage was right decision or not.
Please tell me what should I do? If I say yes to her demands, how do I bring myself to be with other women and have sex with them?
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Everyone has a right to fantasize but that does not mean that they have to go for the reality in the relationship when other partner is not ready for it so here since you are not ready and not into swinging you should refuse to act on her wish and let her know that you do not like this so she should control herself for the sake of the married life. Let her know what are the things that are deal breaker things for you and she should make sure that she will not cross the limit otherwise she has to ready to face the dire situation like divorce.
It is time for you to set the boundaries in the relationship and she should respect it if she wants to be in the married life. The separation is not an option as you should keep in mind that you yourself asked her to reveal her fantasy to you and she did so you cannot hold her responsible for anything since she did not do anything in real.