My wife kisses me when everyone is around.
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2 months back I got married. My wife comes from a traditional family but I am surprised at her behavior. She loves me a lot. We are in a joint family. She used to play with me often, tease me, hug me, and have mischief with me.
While I am leaving for office, she kisses me on the lips in the hall. I told her that family members are around, so do it privately or just avoid it. But she said, they are our family, they know we are newly married. They are matured to know that I am kissing my hubby not others. It is my ultimate right. I love u dear.. blah blah..
But the kids of my brother are 8 & 6 yrs of age. It may harm their mentality. How can I make her understand the situation. (She loves my family very much, and said no nuclear family for us. We must stay with your family as long as we can).
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So you are complaining this public display of affection ! Obviously it is understandable on your part that you do not feel displaying it in front of your family members! As your wife too comes from a traditional family she should have known the limits of staying in a joint family!
Being newly married couple and you Son-in- law of her family you must have been visited her family or you might have been getting invitations from her family too! So you make a point to accept such invitations and take your wife alongwith you and there you try to grab her and try such a public display of affection in front of her family! Obesrve what she feels ! If she becomes uncomfortable then tell her that is the way you feel at your home due to her behaviour! Hope this will make her wiser! And doing such things in visinity of kids is a strict No No! Tell her to control her emotions! Best luck!
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PDA isn’t bad after all and your wife does have a point. A woman needn’t feel shy to kiss her husband when others are present around. You feeling this way is quite natural because all of us were made to believe that sex or anything associated with it should be done behind closed doors at nights and shouldn’t be done outside, but it isn’t that way.
I also agree with your point, that it might not leave a good impression on the minds of your niece and nephew. So tell the same to your wife and ask her to do the same in your bedroom or when the kids aren’t present around. Our country surely isn’t the West to take such things easy, so rather than questioning the system you can choose to go with it.
Explain to your wife your concern, don’t cut her feelings off easily, she might get hurt; take time by cajoling her about your worry, she would surely understand it. I suggest you volunteer every single day in taking her to your bedroom to hug her, fondle her and to kiss her passionately. This way she might like this new routine and might follow it.
All it takes for a couple to flourish is, some proper mode of communication and some genuine concern. You needn’t feel surprised at her behaviour, she is nothing but normal; a wife kissing her husband isn’t an unknown fact. When people accept the same when done behind closed doors, why not accept it when they are around? Now, I wouldn’t recommend you to have sex in the open, but hugging and kissing is acceptable. Tell her in a composed way, she would fall for it and don’t forget my idea of volunteering. Not only you would have privacy, but you can go further than just kissing.