My wife and I have been together for four years, and we have a two year old son together.
My wife has an incredibly high sex drive, while I have never had a sex drive and could’ve gone my whole life without having sex and been fine. However, we both love each other and are trying to make it work.
She knows that I have no sex drive and has known since we started dating.
I sometimes force myself to have sex with her because I know how much pleasure it gives her. Don’t get me wrong, she is a beautiful woman and she has an amazing body, but I have never been sexually aroused in my life and I doubt that it will happen now.
Sometimes I just can’t will myself into sex so she turns to masturbation, which is completely fine. I’m totally okay with her pleasuring herself and she can watch porn all she wants. However last night she came up to me and sat me down and told me that we needed to talk so I said okay. She told me that she needs more sex in her life and asked me how I would feel if she had sex with other men.
She told me that it would be no strings attached and no feelings involved and that the man would wear a condom and she’d get on birth control, and we would talk about the safety aspect and she wouldn’t keep in touch with the guys she had sex with. I’ll be honest, my heart just….dropped when she said that. For a minute I thought I was gonna have a panic attack. I told her I needed some time to think about it and she told me to take all the time I needed and I just feel devastated now.
It’s unfair for me to say no. My wife deserves sexual pleasure, it’s unfair for me to keep that from her. But I’m not enough for her. She wants sex with another man. I’m fucking terrified. I can’t lose her. I can’t stand the thought of another man touching her.
But she deserves to be happy.