My wife was gifted lingerie by her colleague, is this a Bigger problem?
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My wife is working in an IT company. I know all her colleagues there. My wife is very friendly in nature and she converses with everyone. I know one of her colleagues working there, he is like a joker; very funny guy. He always does something everyday in the office to help the staff have a hearty laugh.
My problem is, last week it was my wife’s birthday. So she received lots of gifts from her office staff and last night we opened each gift one by one. That funny guy, gifted my wife 7 bras and 7 panties. I was in a state of shock and was raging with anger but my wife started to laugh….laugh and laugh. I think she laughed for more than 30mins.
I was shocked about that because I was surprised about how he knows her bra, panties sizes. I’m afraid if my wife told about that. Is this normal where women talk about these stuff with out side guys?
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I think you needn’t worry about this too much because that guy could’ve known your wife’s measurements from her lady friends. I mean, women do discuss this stuff among them, so he might have got a tip from one of your wife’s female friends or he must have guessed it correct, because men are very much visual and seeing your wife working with him, he must’ve deduced her sizes or this must be some kind of prank on you because you said he is a joker kind of guy and always fools around.
You needn’t feel shocked because, if there was something fishy going on behind your back, your wife wouldn’t have reacted the way you described. She was equally surprised by this and hence had a hearty laugh, I say you leave the issue and go back to normal. You surely cannot blame your wife for the gift she received from that guy, so there’s no point in doubting her. Let this moment pass, but I surely understand your mindset now; no guy would want to stay normal after his wife was gifted lingerie by her colleague.
Venture a question; ask your wife about this gift sometime when her mood is normal, let her know you’re intimidated by the fact that he has given you this gift. From what you’ve mentioned in your question, you weren’t doubting your wife, but were expressing your shock about this incident, so tell your wife the same thing, she would surely be able to understand.
Think about it this way, at least you can ask your wife to put on a sexy strip show exclusively for you in her new lingerie.
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This is no laughing matter. It is surprising that your wife was amused. There are boundaries of friendship and it is imperative that a woman stays behind those boundaries. Check with your wife what was so funny about receiving such a personal gift? Tomorrow, if a male friend gifts her with condoms, one for each day of the week, will she still be laughing?
You need to clearly state your dis-pleasure to your wife. Tell her that you will be reporting the matter to their Personnel Department. You need not go that extent, but she will convey the message to her friend and let him sweat for a few days. But you need your wife to be on your side.
The guy may be a joker and may want to pull his pants down to make everyone laugh in the office, but it is incidence like these which sound harmless, that creates tension later on. This is a type of sexual harrassment in the office and needs to be curbed before it escalates.
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Dear,
This is a big issue of crossing the limits. But, as you stated, he a funny guy as if joker. Don’t take is serious.
The reason behind is this won’t happen if anything wrong is being carrying out between your wife and that guy. that guy must be joking.
My second opinion is something is happening between your wife and that guy. After all he is working in pvt sector and company is paying him for his good quality of work. Thus he won’t be non sense or not known by the privacy limits of a female. Witty or funny nature is other aspect. He may not did this is wit. it need a planning. Guy may think your wife will open gift when she is alone.
about size, it doesn’t matter too much. It can be guessed easily. But, this is crossing of limits of morality. He should be discouraged and your wife laughed on his deed. will you present a gift of lingerie to a female, you best known??? definitely not. Fun or wit is one thing but crossing morality is another. You can’t pill pants of
somebody in the name of fun.
Now what should be done?? I suggest not to discuss this matter to your wife or any other person and make contact with that guy in friendly way, as you taken this issue as fun. Broad your relations and find the fact.
May be your wife is crossing her limits also in her office.