I apologize for being so personal but the entire situation is extremely confusing. I’ve been with my fiance for over 4 years now and in the past intimacy was never a problem. In fact I was always the one to initiate intimacy in the past, however in the past year or so I cannot stand the thought of being intimate.

I’ve been very ill lately and stressed from work and the way he approaches me now turns me off rather than on. This never used to be the case but there’s something about him pushing for it that instantly turns me off. He’s been getting upset wondering if there’s anything wrong with him and there isn’t. I’m still very much attracted to him but the act of intimacy no longer does anything for me.

It’s baffling me. I do not find any other men sexually attractive, I still find my fiance sexually attractive. But when it comes time to do something I become very turned off and I feel like I’m only doing it to keep him happy. I’ve had talks with him about it but he doesn’t seem to understand that I just can’t get there anymore and I don’t even know why myself.

Any advice?