Hello, I have been in a relationship with someone for 6 years. Ill give a short backstory of our past first than ill get into the problem. Okay, so we met in our junior year of high school. We both moved out of our parents house at 18, and lived with our friend in a trailer. We had a lot of problems with intimacy, we rarely had sex and he formed an addiction to porn. Our friend began to have feelings for me, began to resent my boyfriend( which was his best friend for since grade school) and it began to cause a lot of problems. ( none of use cheated on each other). We eventually moved out to our own teailer and began to work out our problems. He quit watching porn and I began to be more open with him. Out relationship is great. I love this man very much. We do everything together and were both very open about out relationship and both work towards our problems and how to solve them. There is still is a major problem. Our intimacy. Its something that has always been a problem for us, and I really don’t know what to do anymore. We don’t have sex very often, and whenever we do its not at all what it should be. Its not passionate, is lacking the connection that two should have when making love. Its seems like a void and it hurts me. He seems very distant. He never initiates sex and whenever he does it usually for foreplay or something like that. When I try, sometimes it leads to sex, but most of them time, be seems obvious. It really hurts to be in this spot. I mean, I’m literally writing this on a forumnright now at 1 am cause I don’t know what else to do. I mean, I’m a girl, and I want some attention, I want him to hold me and give me a real kiss ans make love to me, but it feels so empty. Part of me feels like its me, maybe I’m an attention whore, but then again, I deserve for a man to make love to me. We don’t have sex very often, maybe like 3 times a months. And its usually me initaing it. Yet he still shows me how much he loves me and everything else. Hes perfect in all other departments. I know that he loves me. I need some advice, I would really appreciate no responses like “dump his ass” I need someone please take this seriously. Cause I wabt this to work. Were such a good pair and I really need to this problem to get fixed.