I am a 24 year old straight single male suffering from Traumatic Stress Masturbation (TSM) also known as ‘Prone Masturbation’. This practice has ruined my sex life as I believe it has caused me anorgasmia (lack of orgasm) during sex.

In fact I came across my condition, while reading posts on this website – after further research since then for the past 2 weeks to date, I am nearly successful in changing to the conventional hand method of masturbation. Until I got to know about my condition, I was confused and traumatised due to my incapability to orgasm – I never enjoyed sex although I enjoyed masturbation, and I was even easily aroused by pornography/beautifulwomen.

For the past 5 years, I have endured a lot of mental agony and depression due to this condition. The women who have been with me, have become increasingly frustrated and angry at me. Also, I have never enjoyed sex to the fullest. unfortunately.

This condition(anorgasmia) of mine has caused me to follow dangerous sexual practices – I have visited 4-5 prostitutes in the past repeatedly trying to remedy my problem – at that time I was unaware that the cause was prone masturbation. I always felt a lack of sensation on penetration during sex which was troubling. This also caused a loss of confidence during sexual activities.

Otherwise, I am a healthy male with normal urges and libido. I can get a strong erection when alone – but I fear the sensitivity of the penis is lost now. I have been practicing prone masturbation for nearly 13 years now, and I don’t know whether it is too late to rectify my problems.

Yesterday, after having had 2 weeks with the hand method of masturbation only, I had visited a prostitute yet again. Unfortunately the same difficulties persisted, I could not maintain a strong erection and ended up not ejaculating – this time I could not even ejaculate by hand.

All these events have led to me having a very frustrated sex life and following unhealthy practices of visiting prostitutes. I am contemplating visiting a sexologist for more help. I am confident of permanently changing to the hand method of masturbation but I don’t know what to do about my anorgasmia condition – it is very frustrating and I don’t get any pleasure out of sex.

Please share your informed opinions and advice, thanks. Any information on support groups in India would be great