I(28F) have been seeing this guy (27M) for 3 months online. He has been following me on Instagram for 2 years and we started talking when I replied to one of his story. Everything happened so fast and we confessed our feelings for eachother and decided to get married. Since I am pursuing my Master’s in US , I (South Asian)decided to apply to different jobs in Australia and also to Ph.D programs in Australia ( He is British but lives there and doesn’t wanna move and is thinking of going back to college after he dropped out of high school ) so that we can be together.

Initially he used to call me every other night and we used to talk about the things that interest him like Cars and such which I always listened to with keen interest but whenever I wanted to have a deeper conversation he would say he is tired and wants to sleep. I like to communicate and used to send him all those lovey dovey posts which he rarely reciprocated. He also mentioned that he would have never messaged me first if I hadn’t replied to his story. His texts and calls started to become drier and I realized he doesn’t feel the same emotional need to connect with me as I do. I mentioned that to him sometimes and he said that his work keeps him busy and also he has to take care of his siblings so I should understand.

He also frequently mentioned how I physically am exactly his type and how attracted he was to me which I always appreciated while I really wanted to talk about how he views life and other ideologies which he follows to live his life and see how we relate or don’t.

I am going through a diagnosis process of a medical condition and I needed his emotional support during this time and when I asked him to call me he said he is working on his van and he can’t call me. He then went on a camping trip and realized I was a bit cold and asked me what’s wrong. I was hurt and angry and expressed my pain of feeling like I don’t even deserve empathy let alone support and attention and that I am always labelled as complaining if I ever ask for his time to which he responded ” At times, I really don’t miss being in a relationship “. I asked him to explain himself to which he didn’t respond until he came back from a trip. He admitted that he is completely wrong and he doesn’t give me enough attention.

Since then, I have been asking him to have an open conversation but he kept on saying he doesn’t have a time to call me and kept on sending me irrelevant stuff in an attempt to brush it all under the carpet. He also stopped sending me Good morning and I love you.

Eventually, I typed it all out in calm manner that since he doesn’t wanna call I want to know that if he feels that I am asking for too much as I feel unloved and want to know why he has gone so cold? I also clearly wrote how it is taking a big toll on my mental health and I am already going through a lot. He responded after 24hrs with sorry for my late reply and actually answered nothing. He then proceeded to tell me how he is getting a dog. I then asked him politely to please offer me some transparency as I don’t want to bother him repeatedly or invest in something which isn’t good for us to which he hasn’t responded.

I am so stressed I want to end it all as I feel suffocated where my emotions and words mean nothing