My Husband and I been married for 22 years, we have 3 sons and I have been at stay-at-home mom for the past 20 years. I am just starting to venture out into working world again. I just recently worked for a year and half at a job that I hated…and now I am about to start another new job next week part time. For the past couple of years our relationship hasn’t been all that great. we have our ups and downs that I am sure everyone has or goes through. but lately I have been feeling a knot in my stomach. like I know something is not right. He has a cell phone that I am never allowed to touch or use (a couple of years ago that wasn’t the case)..he carries it every where he goes and I mean every where. well about a month ago I decided to look at the phone bill on line and to my surprise I see on his phone line that there are calls everyday for the past year to a number of a lady he used to work with. He is retired and is working a different part time job now. the calls are always between 9 and 6 after he leaves the house and right before he comes home (and right during the times she is working)..the calls are anywhere from 15mins to 45 mins and there is numerous calls to one another everyday…we recently took a family vacation and there was a couple calls to her or from her. now I know that when he worked at his previous job he was friends with her and different ladies from work and he used to come home and tell me stuff about them but this is just strange cause when I asked him about her and if he talks to her he said once in awhile. I asked did he talk to her recently and he said no….. “NO!” I said to him. then how come on your phone line there is calls everyday between the two of you numerous times a day. everyday? .he then first tried to deny it was her number. then I showed him I have proof it is her number because I have a master list of his from when he worked there that has all his previous coworkers with their home address, phone numbers and cell numbers. and this cell phone is registered to her! He finally admitted it was her number and they are not having an affair and they are just good friends that have a lot in common to talk about .that I wouldn’t understand. because a lot of it has to do with work and the reasons about why he retired. we have a son that has Tourette’s and she has a son that has Asperger’s so they talk about that and medicines…etc…but what I don’t understand is how they can talk so many times in one day like 8 times and if they are only friends why was it such a secret from me? well after I showed him that I can see that they have talked everyday for over a year. all of a sudden the calls stopped on his phone…(why did they stop if they were only friends) and then I found some stuff for a track phone (the chargers and the packaging with the serial# for the phone on it but no phone) and the hidden in our van…he swears it is not his and he does not know how it got there. really! we have been trying to talk things out for the past month. I cry he cries he swears nothing was happening between them. but I can’t shake this horrible feeling inside…I do still love him and want to believe him…he tells me he loves me and wants to stay in our marriage…but everyday I am crying cause I do not believe him and I want him to tell me the truth…I do believe it was an affair maybe not a sexual one. but an emotional affair! and I am not sure I can get over this I am trying but it is so hard…our boys have no idea what is going on between us and I do not want them to know. I have talked to my sister about this and she is the only one that knows. I don’t have anyone else to turn to for advice or even just an opinion…looking for help..so back to my question..Should I believe him?