Should I inform my friend that another friend is flirting with his wife?
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f friend (c) is taking advantage of another friend (a) and flirting with his wife, Then should I (being a common friend (b) of friend (a) & his wife.) need to inform my friend (a)?
I am a very close friend to (a) and his wife. I am very confused. What action do I need to take to save future problems. I want to help them.
Please advice.
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Be very cautious, as it would back fire at you if anyone takes it wrong way or get offended. You said that your friend’s wife is good friend of yours so better to give hints to her that what is happening is some sort of advantages and more than friendly things to avoid future conflicts but you have to do it indirectly.
Flits among friends are common up to some extent. However, I have feeling that it is you, who at the end going to lose by interfering in others matter. Who knows what is going between both (your friend a and your friend’s wife) and you are unaware about the real fact of the matter. Informing her husband is certainly not the good idea so better to confront either a or common female friend who is at the center.
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Hello, .flirting is very common these days and are often harmless..and sometimes it is needed too.
In case there is a an extra marital sex affair between them and if you are convinced of it and can prove it, it better to tell your friend. A casual affair can be understood and pardoned but if it is an ongoing affair, you should tell your friend and prove it. Living with a wife who cheats on a regular bais is dangerous.
(I divorced my wife as she developed an affair with friend of mine. My wife encouraged my driking and made me an alcoholic so that se can meet with her lover when i was dead drunk and asleep. She even used to drug my drinks.She completely destroyed my life by refusing to give me divorce for many years. Now she is living happily abroad enjoying all the sex she wants)
So study the situation well and only after confirming that they are having an affairr inform your friend, You can send an anonymous letter,to the husband,as if written by a strange man, with out any references that may revel your identity
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I know friend giving divorce is not that easy. We people can easily say go for a divorce, but for a male it isnt so easy. I know some financial dispute must there, if she isnt working and a house wife you got to pay her expense monthly even after divorce.
Anyhow you can deal with it if there is some sot of financial dispute accordingly when time permits. You can get into a live in relationship with your old friend. But remeber dont get registered anywhere. I have cousin and he did the same, still his divorce petition is pending after 3 years of sepration and he is boldly in a live in with his ex school mate and his wife is aware of it. In a live in relationship it becomes almost impossible to prove that the couple had commited adultery
If your wife does not give for her consent after 3 years of sepration you can apply for divorce. I hope you do not have kids with your wife, if you have in that case another financial burden of your kids will be on your head till they start earning on their own. And the most worst will the mental impact on them.
Sometimes things dont work and we realize we are in a mess too late. But thats life, pray for the best friend and apply for divorce as soon as you can, take help from some relatives and friends get rid of this hanging sword.
wish you luck and a happy future.