Should I love and marry him?
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Dear Anjali Madam,
I have a serious problem and need your help. I am haanvika, age 22, and working in a Fancy shop near my house. I have been sincerely in love with a boy since 5 years. He is also working in the same Fancy shop. My family members don’t know about my love. I have been maintaining secrecy.
I always walk to the Fancy shop as it is close to my home. There is another boy ( I don’t know his name) has been following me daily when I go to to the shop and comments about my figure, but I never gave any response to him.
One day he made some funny action when I am going and I laughed because it was really a hilarious thing. After some days, he proposed to me. I rejected him immediately and told him about my love, but I didn’t tell him who i was in love with. He forced me to tell my lover’s name but I said never. He did not stop following me. He started saying I love you, I will die for you, I will do anything for you. I warned him many times but he didn’t listen.
I didn’t tell anything about this to my lover, because they both may fight. Then this boy found my phone number and started messaging me daily saying I will do anything for you. Please love me, marry me. I got angry and warned him but it was of no use. One day I got very angry with his messages, and told him, will you do anything for me? He replied yes. I told him to meet at a park in the morning time. I was thinking all night about how to make him to hate me. I thought if he hates me, he will leave me, but I didn’t get any ideas.
I was thinking thinking about it and I remembered his words, ‘I will do anything for you’. I couldn’t tell him to die for me, beccause if he really tried to die, I would be in trouble, so I decided to offer him my shit to eat. I woke up early morning and took a small steel box and a spoon and went to bathroom. I collected my shit and urine in that box. I knew I was doing wrong but my only intention was make him hate me. I knew no one will accept to eat shit for their love and lover.
I met him at the park and asked him will you do anything for me, he said yes, then I gave him box of shit. He asked me what it is? I replied this is my product if you eat it I will love you and marry you. He opened the box and was shocked. He asked me what the hell is it. I said if you eat it I will love and marry you. Initially, he said No and was angry with me. , then I said if you can’t eat it then leave me, don’t follow me. He took spoon and started to eat it. I was shocked by his act. He ate it quickly and finished. I got tension and ran away from there. He messaged me. I didn’t reply. Next day he stopped me and asked you should marry as I did what you said even it was harmful to me. Now, he daily tortures me.
I read here some shit related questions and answers. So I registered here so that I can ask my problem to the experts.
Should I love and marry him? Sometimes, I get bad dreams like I married him and he forced me to eat his shit. In case, I marry him, will he force me? I can’t imagine it. I will die but never eat.
I don’t want to cheat you because you are helping by sharing knowledge, my name is not haanvika but my age is 22. I changed my name for my privacy. because I knew my friends also following this site. but they have not registered yet.
Please help your sister,
haanvika (name changed)
Thank you
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You made blunder by meeting him at the park and top of that you offered him to eat your product with thoughtless condition to marry him if he eat it and he did it to get married you.
Without thinking too much first let your boyfriend know about him and ask him to get involved, do not care about if they fight.
If your boyfriend cannot handle him then inform your family members before he does something stupid which you cannot reverse it.
It sounds that he is mentally not stable so it is very unsafe to deal with such a person on your own way. Your family members will handle him and can report to the polish if needed but you should inform them, as you cannot tackle him seeing his adamant nature.
It is out of question to think about marrying him just because he ate your shit when you told him. You should have handled it carefully but you acted immaturely so now do not escalate your mistake to the worse in attempt to fix it.
You should not fear to let everyone knows about his indecent behavior with you.
Next time never deal with such person the way you dealt with him. You had so many other options to explore but you acted irresponsible way so ask your good wishers to tackle the matter and you stay away from him.
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I thought I had seen pretty much everything on this website, and then this question comes up, and I have to say that I quite surprised.
It sounds like a fantasy, but if I have learned anything from my 35 years of existence, it is that the truth is not only stranger than we think, but is stranger than we can think!!! I know somebody else said that, but it is most appropriate.
Let us make the assumption that this isn’t a fantasy: and that you have got yourself into an awkward situation by doing something that you imagined would be so repugnant to your unwanted suitor that you thought it would put him off for life. To your dismay, he not only accepted the challenge and consumed everything, he then took it as some kind of commitment on your part.
This young guy is what we call in the UK, a stalker. He is harassing you, and in the UK, he could be arrested, and have a court order placed against him to stay away from you, or be rearrested, and given a prison sentence if he persists. I don’t know whether this is the case in India, but it certainly should be. Stalkers, left unchecked, have been known to rape the object of their devotion, and even murder them. Fortunately that’s fairly rare, but being pursued by someone that you do not want is a most distressing situation to be in. Other people can comment on whether the police would do anything about this in India, they certainly would in the UK.
I cannot understand why you have not spoken to this young man that you do like. It would be easier for you if he met you and walked with you to and from work each day. I think your unwanted stalker would get the message. You had a relationship with this guy for five years, so why don’t you talk to your families about it?
You should most definitely talk to someone about this guy who persists in following you around. What you did, in trying to repulse him, was not a smart idea. It’s too late to worry about that now, and you could deny doing it if he even mentioned it on being arrested or confronted, but you cannot allow this situation to go unreported. A guy that develops an obsession is likely to be somewhat mentally disturbed, and therefore could be unpredictable. Talk to your father, talk to your boyfriend, or talk to the police, preferably all three of them!!! You don’t have to be alone and scared, you just have to have the courage to talk to others about the problem.
Take care,