Should I marry a girl, for whom my heart does not feel anything ?
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Hi,
I recently turned 32. I am single, professionally educated and have decent earnings. I want to marry an educated girl, who is at least a postgraduate, and do not expect anything from the girl or from her family.
I have no preconditions that she/family should have money, give dowry, nor do I expect her to work, nor do I expect her very beautiful. I want a girl, who understands the changing environment, who can hold the family in changing times.
At personal level and in relationships, I am down to earth and a simple person, who is in Corporate life.
Recently, a well known person in my father’s society approached my parents for a match for a Girl. The girl was a simple graduate (Non Professional), and did her graduation 7-8 years back.
There is nothing that attracts me towards her profile. But my father said, that girl belongs to a reputed family, and will go for a very decent marriage (money wise). The girl is also about to be 32.
Please suggest what I should do? Should I accept the proposal or not?
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If you are not attracted to her then you should not marry her just to make your parents happy. However, before taking any decision I would say meet her a few times and go on dates to see whether there is anything that changes your mind towards her. She might be funny and a mature girl who can understands you and with whom you can spend your rest of the life happily.
It would not be a wise decision to reject her before meeting or talking to her. Talk to your parents that you would like to meet her first to decide whether you want to marry her or not. If at the end you do not like then you should tell your parents that you do not like her and I am sure your parents would not force you to marry her.
If you have a good career and you are earning decent then take enough time to find your partner otherwise you will regret your decision marrying a girl you do not get attracted too. There are many girls who are looking a partner like you so do not take any decision under pressure.
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You seem to have double standards. On the one hand you say, that you have no preconditions for marriage. On the other hand you want an educated, professional girl who is (at least a post graduate) and is working.
So…you are looking at a Profile.
It also seems that money is a consideration for your Profile…or you would not have been excited by your father telling you that the Girl’s Family has money.
How do you expect your heart beat to rise, if you do not know the girl? This is an arranged marriage and Love will enter only after marriage.
You need to find out, why the girl has waited till 32, for marriage. Since she is not working and does not have Business obligations, find out the reasons for the delay. If you are not keen that she should work, then why are you bothered with her qualifications? Is it to show off to your colleagues that you have hooked an educated Bride? She is not a show piece. Concentrate on her family background and whether she will make a good home.
It may be advisable to meet the Girl and find out her views on marriage and what she expects from her life partner.
After all Marriage is about two people.