Should I tell my husband about my infidelity in his absence?
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I am 30 years old. I come from a traditional family. My husband had to leave for work after 2yrs of marrige. I did not accompany him as I had to take care of his ailing mother, while applying for dependent visa. I was doing fine until one day, I accidentally had sex with my boss. After that we regularly started having sex. Now, it has become a habit and I am helpless and cannot stop. As my husband is always busy in his work we are hardly doing it. My boss is doing such things with me, that my husband has never done. Truely speaking although my mind tells me to avoid this as it is a very bad thing, if any one know what will happen to my family. At the same time the pleasure I am getting from him is unexplainable. My body wants it. Now a days when the clock is at 11 AM, I am waiting for him to come. But when he goes, I feel sorry for myself. I cried and cried. But I can´ t avoid. What I will do, I am in a dilema. But now I'm feeling very guilty for cheating my husband. Should I tell him about this or should I completely hide it from him. I'm not sure how he will react when I tell him of my betrayal...as our society is too conservative and strict about adultery. He's a modern man though. Should I tell him?
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Disha, you are an adult as well as a young married woman who naturally would have a desire to have enough physical intimacy ,in other words you need sex and first of all it’s the duty of your husband to provide you enough sex!
But for whatsoever reasons he is not able to performing his duties in this regard
Leaving morality apart there is nothing wrong what you have done or what you are doing!
Never reveal this secret to your husband or for that matter to anyone else!
Office romances are very dangerous! They are bound to be discovered! Your office staff or at least office boys and cleaning women might have known all about you and your boss and they might have even watched you if you are doing it in office
Same time it’s also our duty to make you aware of the consequences !
If it comes out there would be huge scandal and your married life will be devastated!
So while continuing try to keep the things under wraps and do not leave any leads ever for someone to track your actions!
Don’t imagine even if your hubby is modern and even if he would have been fucking women out there he would pardon your deeds !
Best of luck and take informed decisions!
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First thing you should do is stop having sex with your boss and you can do it as there is nothing like that you cannot stay away from his dick so stop giving excuses to continue this. Once you stop having sex with him you can decide whether you want to tell this to your husband or not.
You have to be ready to lose him as there are full chances because he may not want to be with someone who fucks behind his back while he works his ass off to provide you a better life. If you can hide this for your rest of the life then you can decide to keep the secret from him but make sure that you stay loyal to him now onwards.
You will lose so many things if he comes to know about it. You did a worse with your husband and if you want to give him what he deserves then now be loyal to him and give him the love he deserves. You can use sexual toys in absence of your husband but never resort to cheating.