Should I wish my Ex on her Birthday?
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I was in a relationship with my ex girlfriend for the last 7 years. We wanted to get married but due to parental pressures we had to break up. She got married to some other guy last year and since then I haven’t talked to her. Last year on her Birthday I didn’t wish her also. But when I cleared my CA she did congratulate me on FB. Its her birthday this month and I am not sure if I should wish her. I am scared to face her because I know, the moment we talk I will loose control and break down but on the other hand I also feel the need to get some closure on her. Kindly advise me whether I should message her or not?
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I don’t think there is a reason for you to contact her again. You both loved each other but that is in the past and now you might ponder as to what is there in a little birthday wish, but as you mentioned you cannot control yourself and pour yourself out there, she might feel your love out and might get into a dilemma. Just message her over FB, a casual birthday wish, thats it.
I don’t think contacting her is good since, this way you can build up the gap and can get used to the fact that you people can never be together ever again. 7yrs relationship is no small thing and it would take a saint to not make any move or advance once the two of your catch up for the old times sake. Either of you would surely bring up the topic of ‘its difficult without you’ and that might mean different to your respective minds. I presume she is now happily married and is getting used to living her life with her husband, so you trying to bring the issue to a close would surely disturb her peace of mind.
You of all the people know, you can never get back, so learn to accept that fact and move on and wipe her memories away. After all she will always remain your 1st love, retain only this single thought and move on with your life.
Wish her, but don’t contact her.
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Yes you should wish her on her birthday See buddy you were in intimate relationship with each other Though you could not get married it does not mean that the world has ended ! In fact it has not!It was the golden phase of both of yours lives and none of you can ever forget either that phase or each other And though she got married to another guy she still somewhere has love for you and it will be always there that is why she congratulated you Otherwise why on the earth did she wished you?So married or not you should wish her but try to avoid having any further relations apart from formal
occasions as it would be detrimental to both of yours lives do not cross the limits And please consider yourself lucky that you are in position to contact her on such occasion. As a friend of mine was in love and they could not marry Today almost after 27 years he is still searching her whereabouts as during that time society was not that tech savvy so he can not search her on any networking site too ( he had tried but could not find her ) . So just keep formal relations !