She’s been his friend since they were 15 or 16 years old. He is twenty six now. Her best friend was my spouses brother, whom she ended up marrying last year but they are now separated and are getting a divorce. They had a daughter together. I should mention that they lived with us for four months right before they got married. I had to set a date for them to move out because they were living here for free and I had enough (wanted my house/privacy back). We live in different states, but he keeps in touch with her through Facebook messenger. His excuse is that she has his niece plus they’ve been friends for years.
I know for a fact the woman does not like me and I don’t like her either. We had a couple disagreements while they lived with us (like her smoking while pregnant…). Before they got separated, they came to visit us and stayed over night. Her husband got drunk and went to bed. Meanwhile, me, my spouse and her were in the kitchen. They were having a great time talking, laughing, lots of eye contact… I was just sitting there listening. Didn’t really talk much because for one I don’t like her. Anyways, what bothered me is that my spouse didn’t really acknowledge my presence that whole time. Like, he never made eye contact with me while they were talking, it was as if I wasn’t there. Isn’t this kind of disrespectful? I understand they’re old friends and they were catching up on things but he made me feel less important and I started crying and went into the other room. He heard me crying and went to talk to me and calm me down telling me how much he loves me and I’m the one he loves, etc.
A couple months later she ends up separating from my spouses brother and seeks my spouse for emotional support. They were talking almost everyday for at least a month until I scared her off and she quit calling him so much because I picked up the phone one time. I don’t know if I’m just being paranoid about the whole situation, but what am I supposed to think when I hear my spouse talking in his sleep and says, “She’s fu**ing with my brother, hahaha, nooo, noooo”. It sounded to me like he has a platonic thing going on for her. I should mention she is into open relationships and has a free love/hippy attitude. He messaged her for Mothers day and then the last time he called her again after Mothers day was this past Monday 6/12. So, they went about a month without speaking to each other, but yet it bothers me that he still needs to contact her!