Teenage daughter is having sex with a matured man. How to handle this situation?
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I am Ruchi. I have two teenage daughters. From the past several months I have been observing my elder daughter. There is a radical change in her behavior and her activities. I don’t know why? She has started wearing skimpy dresses when she goes outside. I could see the light from her phone when she was coming out of her locked room. She starting lying a lot. Her father stays out of station almost all year so I am the only one in control.
Last night when she came home, I made her sit with me to watch some TV but as soon as I grabbed her toward me I could smell a strange smell and she went to her room as usual and locked it. I somehow got her phone and saw her typing her password so I unlocked it and took it in my room while she slept. I opened her whatsapp and I was shocked to see many guys chatting with her. One of them stood out as he was not the boy but a man. I hesitatingly opened the chat and started reading her chat with him from a few months back.
I was surprised that he was clearly flirting with her and she was responding. Chats were getting dirtier as I kept reading. he asked for her pics which she sent him. Few days later he asked for her pics in bra and panty only which she also sent. Next he sent her his pic in only underwear without face and she had sent love emojis to that.
Next he asked her to show him her boobs to which she also sent. Then he asked her to make a video of her pressing boobs to which she did send a video. I was in shock reading and seeing all this. Then he sent my daughter a video of him stroking his penis and asked her if she wanted to taste his lolipop to which my daughter replied that it looked strange and not like lolipop. Next many lines were him convincing her how this is the best thing she will taste. My daughter then agreed.
He then told her to meet him next day if she wanted to suck his penis on some road outsde the city wearing black dress to which she agreed instantly. I remember then the first time she wore such small dress was then. Next conversation was of the night that day. He asked how she liked his dick to which my daughter replied that it was really tasty.
He said next time he won’t put choclate on his dick. I was in disgust reading that but I had to read all the chat. He then asked her if she liked the taste of his cream to which she said she didn’t and he replied that it’ll start tasting good if she eat his cum regularly and then asked her to meet him after school daily.
She asked what will she tell her mom ( me )? He replied that she can tell she has extra classes. I remember that she told me the exact same thing. I kept reading all this in shock until there was a chat where he explicitly told her that he wanted to fuck her a lot and then sent her loads of clips of young girls being fucked by men. My daughter said that she will make some excuse and won’t go with me to her grandma’s house and instead will go out with him.
She did exactly that and lied to me about her extra classes and she also involved her friend into it because when I asked her on telephone she said that my daughter will stay with her and not to worry. Next was the video of what a mother never wants to see. It was sent by that man. It shows how he breaks my daughters’ virginity and fucks her a lot. There were lots of videos of him fucking my daughter on that day and on many days after that. My daughter replied with love emojis to all of them.
I am so heartbroken that my little angel is having sex with an apparently middle aged man and also enjoying it and encouraging him to do it more and more.
I am completely out of options as to what should I do in this situation?
Please help.
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Its really tough time for you but now a days these things are very common child become grow very soon. As a caring mother your worried are very natural but according to me you have to handle all the situation very efficient manner other wise any result may be occur.
First according to me develop friendly relationship with your daughter you have not mansion her age may be in early stage you feel bad but control your emission and handle wisely the situation. First start to keep her room unlocked always, Later you can ask her about her friend and then ask her about her boyfriend tell her in your age boyfriend is very common but self respect is more important. Direct attacking on her will be foolish thing for safety you may transfer her chat on your phone. If she will agree her mistake the thing will be normal soon either you may threat her but before that try to handle politely.
Manhood is manhood its does not matter young or you can also taste love juice and you better know the effect of that. If you want to stop her forcefully then its hundred percent sure she will find other way. Rest after trying all thing you can share your situation so we give you more suggestion to overcome your issue.
Best of luck stay relax and handle carefully
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I can understand your trauma. Knowing your little Angel, has grown up and is enjoying sex is both disturbing and painful. The fact that it is a married man (possibly) must be even more disturbing.
It seems that in the absence of your husband, you have been extremely strict, and have caused your daughter to rebel. So, how do you retrieve the situation? There is not much you can do. You have to accept the situation. The more you try to scream and rant, the further your daughter will go away from you. If possible, you need to get your daughter to confide in you by being more friendly.
What is your husband’s nature? How will he react if you told him? Will he go off the fuse? If possible, you need to tell him and ask him for his inputs.
I am not worried that your daughter is having sex, or even that she is doing it with an older man, what I am worried is that he is making clips of her having sex. You have not said if his face is visible in the clips? This is a potentially dangerous situation that can lead to future blackmail.
You need to take the help of some Organisation. If your daughter is a minor, then you can get the man in lots of trouble, if you complain to the police. Make copies of those clips. That will nail him and he will have no escape.You can also find out if he is married and have a direct confrontation with his wife (taking some known people with you).
The problem with this solution is that you risk losing your daughter and the matter will become a public. But you will need to do something