The problem is I don’t orgasm during sex, but I do orgasm easily during masturbation.
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I’m a 20-year-old female and my partner is 20 too. The problem is I don’t orgasm during sex, but I do orgasm easily during masturbation. Also, I feel like my mind is numb sometimes, like my mind is blocked during sex. I love him and he’s trying his best to satisfy me, but no matter how relaxing it is, I rarely am able to get over that mind block. The way I masturbate is by grinding on a pillow. I don’t know how he can simulate that, because right now he’s not stimulating the right parts. Could you suggest ways he can stimulate the right parts. I’ve tried being on top. It’s a little painful.
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In sex, it is we, who hold the responsibility of pleasure and our orgasms. Our partners usually facilitate us reaching there. It is good that through masturbation you are able to climax on your own. How about masturbating next time in front of your partner and guiding him on exactly what it takes for you to get off? About your concern of not orgasming during intercourse, it is nothing unusual. A majority (nearly 75 per cent) of women do not orgasm from penetration alone, they need additional stimulation on their clitoris to reach there. The clitoris has a complex network of nerves that go far and wide under the skin and each woman has “hot spots” that feel best. For most women, pleasure only builds when those hot spots are stimulated repeatedly, in a pattern, over and over. Circular motion, ovals and figure-8s are some of the most efficient ways to pleasure the territory, even as the spots change.