I (19M) have been sexually active for about 3 years. I was sort of a man whore in high school after my first time.

I’ve always felt weird about sex. I enjoy it for the first 10 min but then as it hits 30 min-1hr I get bored and she’s pretty spent as am I.

I’ve always gotten the “did you cum?” My answer is always a sulken no. I’ve never finished from sex and i feel like it’s starting to interfere with my current relationship.

She was a virgin when we first started dating and she loves that I last long but she feels guilty that I don’t finish. I’ve told her that it’s never happened and I don’t know why. She still feels guilty that she gets the enjoyment people dream of (long lasting sex, not saying Im packing or that I’m a stud at the activity) yet I get almost nothing out of it.

We’ve tried everything. Kinky stuff like pegging or being tied down. We’ve switched roles (dom and sub) and even tantric “sex” with the chakras and spiritual stuff? Nothings worked. Choking, scratching, name calling, hitting, biting, everything masochist short of murder. Yet still nothing.

It’s at the point where we’ve stopped having sex. I think it’s because, she sees that I feel defeated and some what embarrassed. I’ve talked to my doctor and he said there’s nothing wrong with my parts since I can finish myself off on my own easy peasy.

I’ve always thought it’s been a psychological problem but have found little to nothing in my research. I found numerous stories that the guys realized they were gay. Can confirm. Not homosexual. I don’t know what to do.

The blessing most have wished for has now become a curse. I love her so much and I don’t want her to think I don’t find her attractive even though I tell her many times she is. I also don’t want her to leave me because she feels guilty every time we have sex.

TLDR; I’ve never finished from sex and I’ve tried everything. It’s affecting my relationship with my girlfriend

Any and all help or advice is well appreciated thank you all for reading.