Why did I cum after undressing her ?
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I finally got married to my long time gf 2 days back.
We had a topsy turvy relationship and finally we got together !
We had a simple registered marriage because our families disapproved of the marriage and stayed away. It was attended by only a few very close friends.
She was dressed in bridal gear with lots of jwellery and we had promised to make our first night as a couple special. (we have been having sex for a long time before marriage ).
I took a long time in removing all her clothes and jeweler to get her naked . But it made me excited like never before. I had never undressed a woman like that before. So i was completely out of my senses when i turned her naked. She just rubbed her finger o my penis and i simple ejaculated on the bed. Why couldn’t i hold on even after so much experience ?
I got hard after sometime and had a nice sex but i released a very less quantity semen .
please help.
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First off, I wish you a very happy and pleasant married life; do not worry that you don’t have your parents approval because you two are going to live this life and you’ve decided to get married and start a life, so do that, may you guys have all that you’ve desired for in this life.
Moving on to your question, I guess you’ve never had this kind of sex with your wife, the slow anticipation, removing each piece of her dress, the thought of making love to your wife all this might have caused you to explode faster than usual. No matter how much sex you engage in with your partner before marriage, the 1st time after marriage is always special.
I take it that your girlfriend has never dressed up for you prior to having sex, at least not this way with all her jewellery, traditional attire etc……..so seeing her in a completely different attire might have given you such a high. Since you had ejaculated the 1st time, your semen level must have gotten reduced the second time. It’s nothing unusual. The quantity of semen is never the same when you go for successive sessions, either while masturbating or while having sex. So don’t break your head over this.
As for getting habituated to not ejaculating too soon while undressing her in the future, try to make it a habit on certain occasions to make love to your wife this particular way. I’m sure it would give you such a high. Good luck and enjoy your married life.
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The answer is in your question itself as you have mentioned that you were never excited like before and you are too much excitement and that resulted in your ejaculation so there is no need to worry as this is not a problem. You mentioned that why did that happen as you have lots of experienced but let me tell you every sex seasons is differ from each one and excitement level also differ as well so you cannot compare with previous one.
You need to worry if the same problem is persist every time otherwise do not give much attention to this and even do not try to analyze as some question does not need any explanation. You took too much time to undress your wife that was another cause of your ejaculation. Moreover, your wife’s gentle touch add more excitement so overall your early ejaculation just a result of excitement and nothing more than this.
You have undressed your wife before many times but did not face this problem because there were not same situation and excitement lever when you had after marriage.
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We assure you, that all of us here at AA, shower our Blessings on you and your wife. Congratulations! Do not be disheartened that none of your family members were present to attend the Wedding. What matters is that you and your wife are together now and it is now for both of you to make a success of your marriage.
Though you may have had sex, many times before, this occassion was special. Now she was your wife. Most sex is played out in the mind. You were so excited in your mind that you were going to have sex, which made you ejaculate so quickly. It was exciting for you to undress your wife, piece by piece, which heightened your excitement. You made up for your short duration of intercourse the first time, by lasting longer the second time. Do not let this bother you. Be more patient the next time and your wife will understand.
The quantity of semen does not really matter. Even a few sperms are sufficient to give you and your wife a baby. You can play out the fantasy of undressing your wife, when you have sex or you can ask her to dress up and then slowly remove each clothing and jewellery again to have great moments in sex. All the Best.
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Vijay, seems you are having a premature ejaculation problem. You have said your assessent is its due to sleep nude. At least I am happy that you came with a new reason, everyone says earlier habit of masturbation is the reason.
Now take some time and go through our earlier posts on premature ejaculation, we have explained number of times the reason and remedy for PE. Type premature ejaculation on the top right corner of the search box and see how many discussion comes.
From my experience, for the last 25-30 years I am sleeping nude, I dont have a PE till now. Earlier I used to sleep nude with a bed sheet and fan, from the day I could afford an AC, I am sleeping with a blanket and AC. Thats through the year, summer and winter. Only thing that changes is the speed of fan or temperature control of AC. If I didnot have a PE on all these 25+ years which is more than your actual age of 23, probably you wont have too.
Try the technique, but before that find the real cause applicable for you.
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Your habit of sleeping nude doesn’t have anything to do with your problem of PE, so don’t worry about it. What you’re suffering from is called premature ejaculation (PE) which has been discussed numerous times on this forum, so use the search bar on the top right to get more insights on this topic.
PE is not an end of the road situation, so don’t worry about it. Practice kegals to last long, have extended foreplay, keep taking regular breaks while penetration rather than going at it continuously, make use of the start-stop method,, go in for multiple sessions or have sex after masturbating some time before it.
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You are mistaking the two issues. Sleeping nude since you were married and your loss of erection after marriage. Sleeping nude does have its benefits. It makes you feel one with nature. But since there is no restrictive clothing, the chances of frequent erections also rise. How do you handle these erections? Do you masturbate or do you involve your wife and have intercourse with her.
Sleeping nude is said to boost anti-aging hormones. If the body is too warm, the temperature interferes with the release of melatonin and growth hormones. So lower body temperature by sleeping nude helps in regenerating body tissues. These hormones help to burn body fat and repair bones, skin and muscles.
Does your wife also sleep naked? I am asking, because when your bare body comes in contact with her bare skin, the mind gets ideas, even if not consciously and begins to reflect in the form of an erection. Skin to skin touching releases oxytocin, which is a feel good hormone. This hormone reduces stress and depression by fighting the harmful effects of cortisol and reduces blood pressure.
So, sleeping nude, in no way is a cause of your premature ejaculation. We have spoken about this Topic in detail on tour Site. You can search for the Topic. If you get a normal erection when you masturbate, which disappears when you want to have intercourse, then you do not have P.E. Brush up on your love making techniques.