Why do I enjoy his act or do I still have the sexual urge?
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My name is Suman, 44yr old, working as a professor in college. Recently my daughter got married and is living a happy life. Her husband is very flirty type, and openly flirts with me.
Sometimes he holds me very tightly in his arms. It may be possible that he thinks of me sexually. But I ignore it because I understand that sometimes men feel attracted towards older ladies.
If I wear low neck blouses, he keeps moving his fingers on my back. Sometime the situation become so complicated, that even I enjoy his act. Like if he holds me, his penis gets hard. But somehow I control my sex urge.
Why did I enjoy his act and feel like I also have the sex urge?
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He is your daughter’s husband. He thinks that he can do anything with you and you will not be able to complain because your daughter;s life is involved. If he can do all this with you then he must have done a lot with other woman also. Do you like such a person as your son-in-law? Do you think your daughter will be happy with such a person? You and your daughter should take this matter seriously and solve the problem. Otherwise your daughter’s life will be spoiled. If you want sex you can get it anywhere else.
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Why you njoy that, thats because at this age you can grab a young man’s attention, that is what you like. And feel like having sexual urge, thats because you feel the urge. COme on, when a guy embrace you, flirts with you and make his hardon felt, overall make you feel desired at this age, you sure will feel a sexual urge, isnot it?
You didnot mention about your husband, is he there or not? Is he bad on teh sex department or there is no sex? At 44, the urge remains, if the man doesnot take care of his wife’s need, she may look for elsewhere. Be it a young man or elder, she will feel the urge as long as she feels comfortable with the man.
For you the problem is its your son in law. You said your daughter is living a happy life with this guy. WHat is the defnition of being happy, a cheating minded husband wh is fucking his wife and thinking of wife’s mother, does she really has a reason to be called happy? I dont think so.
A mother in law is as close as mother, a son in law is as close as son. So your acting fooling and horny nature is encouraging him to be a mother fucker, isnot that? You are almost getting in between your daughter’s happy married life, about to ruin and in the worst possible way. Are you that bad of a mother?
See, you have need, you may get other guys, eve if your husband is worthless, there are plenty of worthy guys. Find one of them. For this son in law, tell him you are ready to sleep with him provided he fucks his own mother in front of you, and then you will be his official fuck buddy. If one can fuck his own mother can fuck his mother in law too.
Stay away from your urge, libido and whatever wrong you have already done. Dont let him touch you or talk any suggestive words. If anything bad happens, you may lose your daughter for ever. Would you love that, professor?
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It is your physical need and our body always gets excited with gentle touch there is nothing wrong if you are enjoying. I find some strange behavior from your son in law’s side and he should have not doing such things with you. I think his intention is not good. You are right some men get attracted towards elder women but here he is your daughter’s husband. For you he is like your son if he takes some advantages of your open-minded thought than you should tell him that you do not like this at all.
You may take the help your daughter if you think that the situation will not go worsen. However, never allow your desire to overpower, as this is not good for your daughter or for you. That will let you in guilt and it is always hard to live with guilt in life so prevention is better than cure.
Here you have not mentioned about your husband but I am sure you are not satisfied woman. There has nothing wrong in having desire of sex but with son in law is bad. You may look for other options to satisfy your need like sex toys and dildo is not bad idea. However, what is happening between you and your son in law must be stop at any cost. Tell him clearly that you are not kid to understate his intentions when he try to touch you next time and ask him to make distance as you are like her mother.
It is your duty to make him stops as being a man he will not stop himself as man always wants to have sex with his MIL. What is important, to have sex with your son in law or your daughter has married life, that too happy married life as per you.
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First love and sex always be memorable there is no need to do anything special as first time sex itself memorable. You can do such things like; never expect that your first time sex must be like that way or this way. Otherwise, you will be end up with upsets as we can never able to perform as per our wish or preplanning as in the act there are two persons involve and both of you have different thinking and different needs from the sex and relationship so it is hard to match up.
You have mentioned that you have yet to find your girl so try to find a girl first, sex is secondary and one more thing there is nothing impossible to find a dream girl. If you are looking for beautiful girl then you need to understand that if you have a successful career you will be definitely find a beautiful girl without much efforts and easily. Therefore, you need to concentrate on your career first than girl.
I could see from your description that you have lots expectations from your coming partner or you are almost obsessed with your coming partner. Let me tell you that your expectations may cause your relationship stressful so do not expect too much things from life as life is like that. You should have to look for love and honest partner whether she is virgin or not as for men virginity is matte but virginity is something to do with women’s emotional not with her body.
Right now, your priority must have your career, rest of things life and situation will teach you. Life will never act as per our wish and that is the beauty of life.
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Being the first love of a girl is possible but being the first and last sex partner of a girl is a bit difficult but not impossible. Its not like you can ask a girl her name, age, interests and if she is a virgin or not; so this is a sensitive issue. There is no harm in expecting a virgin because you’re one yourself but don’t be hell bent on it.
Other than a mere tissue, there is nothing in a virgin woman; give importance to love when you’re in a relationship other than these issues. Its true that first love is indeed memorable and hard to forget, but first sex, the reality is that it just gets messy. No one would want to remember their first sex because it is filled with pain, tears and fear. But you can still get women who are indeed virgin, just don’t be hell bent on it.
What would you do when you find the perfect woman who is in love with you and vice-versa but you find out that she isn’t a virgin? Would you leave her or would you learn to adapt yourself to the fact that she loves you completely? Love has a pretty big role to play in a relationship than sex, so find yourself a person who loves you completely for what you’re and not your physical attributes.
Let us just say, you happen to meet and fall in love with a woman who has been sexually abused in her past; would you leave her because she isn’t a virgin or would you stay with her because she loves you? Expecting a virgin bride is not bad, but don’t be under the false impression that virgin woman are the best. There is no way you can know if a woman is virgin or not unless you ask her, but do you think a woman would be okay with you asking her about her virginity?