Why has my husband lost interest in sex with me?
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I am 40 years old and a house wife. My husband’s age is 47.We have two daughters and their age are 23 and 20 years. In the last two years, my husband has lost interest in sex with me.
When I force him, he does sex with me but he doesn’t have any foreplay. In the last six months, we have not had any sexual contact. Why has my husband lost interest in having sex with me? How to get my husband interested sexually in me again?
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In the first place it seems that age is the issue here and it is quite normal with men and happens with most of the men. One thing you should keep in mind that there is no solid solution for your problem and you cannot get your husband to have sex with you daily or as much as you want but there is a solution if you both put the effort and meet the half way.
You have to discuss your issue and your desire to your husband and let him know how much frustrated you are because of the lack of your sex in married life, ask him to meet the half way so you both can satisfy your need.
If sometimes he does not want to have sex with you then you can ask him to finger you or go down on you, if possible then purchase few sexual toys which can give you satisfactions hundred percent as those toys are really good at using. You both need to sit down and need to look into the matter positively with the intention to resolve it and bring the practical solution.
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There are several reasons why men start losing interest in sex. In today’s fast-paced world, priorities keep changing all the time. Stress at work, problems at home, managing relationships, all this can take a toll on married Life.
Your Husband must be at that stage of his Life when the stress of providing for the Family, and the thought of marriage of your daughters can cause stress hormones like adrenaline, noradrenaline and cortisol to be released in the body continuously, building pressure on the body-mind mechanism and affecting sex life.
On the other hand, you have been able to bring up your children to a major age and now have more time to yourself and have also reached an age, when your sexual urges are at their peak.
Keeping a marriage relationship alive and vibrant requires work. It may be surprising to some but as years pass in a marriage, the effort required to keep it alive and vibrant increases.
A man can lose interest in the woman he loves, even his wife. What was wonderful in the beginning of the marriage, begins to fade. Many women notice that their husband has stopped touching them as often and seems uninterested in being with them or even staying married. They pass each other in the kitchen, and he avoids eye contact and simply continues walking, just like you don’t even exist.
Has your husband’s behavior changed only recently or was it happening slowly? If it is recent, you will need to ascertain, if he is having an affair. Do you notice any guilt signs? Is he suddenly spending more time outside the house? Does he go on overnight trips saying it is office work?
His loss of libido could also be due to PE related problems caused by some medication. Is he obese? Doe he suffer from diabetes or high blood pressure? In which case you should encourage him to see a doctor and accompany him.
Do you dress well and look sexy for him? Is your weight in check? Do you dress up for him?
It need not be only about sex. It should be about flirting. Women are the ones who initiate a relationship through their flirting. Men may approach a woman, but it is usually after he feels he has received some signal (invitation) from her. Wives who wait for their husband to be romantic don’t understand that men respond to a woman’s cues. If you stop flirting, for a long enough period of time, it’s likely that he’ll notice some other woman who is willing to fill that void. Take the initiative.
Are you a nagging wife? Do you compliment him on what he does for you? Do you spend too much time with the children and neglect him?
Do you criticize him about his disinterest in sex? Have you ever commented on the size of his penis or the duration of his lovemaking?
In short, you may have to look at yourself and find out where the fault lies. We wish you all the Best.