Why is my son behaving this way?
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For the last 4 months my first son’s behavior has completely changed towards me. When I am in the kitchen he comes and hugs me from behind and was poking his dick in my ass. I thought it was by mistake but he kept doing it. I did not say anything but just moved from there and kept cooking. That day he did the same thing twice.
He tries to show me his dick. A few week ago, I had back pain and I asked him to put some ointment on my back. That day I was wearing a nightie. Normally at home I do not wear any innerwear and ask my children also to do the same due to the heat. But I put on one underwear and I asked him to come in. I was lying on my front and he came in pushed my nightie up till my chest and started to put the cream on my back.
After some time he started to press my ass. I didn’t say any thing and after some time he finished. He has put ointment many times before, but this was the first time, he was trying to feel my body. Earlier I used to not wear underwear and at that time, he used to just put the cream and move on. Now what has happend? Now when I change in front of him he looks at me directly. He has seen me have sex wit my friends long time back. At that time also he didn’t react like this.
Now what is wrong with my son? Why is he behaving that way?
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You have not mentioned the age of your son but I presume he is in his early twenties. Nothing has happened with your son, he wants to have sex with you no doubt at all, as his actions suggest that he has developed sexual feeling towards you. Derivation of his sexual feeling towards you may vary as you mentioned that he saw you having sex with your friend so this instigates me, that incident might be the turning point.
You are not clear in your question that whether you want your son to stop this, you just want to know the reason behind his manners and want to continue, or you have no problem with his deeds.
If you want your son to stop this then talk to him directly in firm voice that you do not like all this and you are not expecting such indecent behavior from you. If you want to go ahead (I presume you are) then you have to do nothing just let the things happening as it is going on, I am sure he will come up to you if you would not defend against his actions.
Presently you are single and looking for fun (I read your profile info) so you can consider your son as a sex partner if you have not any guilt-ridden nature. Leave the moral part out-of-the-way then I think there is nothing wrong to have sex with him, as human body needs sexual pleasure.
I am not saying that you have to have sex with your son besides I am against incest sex but I do not know why in your case, I have no problem if you will have sex with your son. The reason might be your question itself with the intention of, you are not looking for a way to stop your son’s activities rather then you are curious to know the reasons behind his unexpected change behavior.
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You have left out the most important detail in your narration. The age of your son. Knowing his age is very important for us to give you a fair analysis of his behaviour. We know your age from your profile and that you have 4 children in the 5 years you were married. You say your husband married the second time, so are some of the children his from an earlier marriage?
You have been rather liberal in the bringing up of your children. No harm in that. But there is fine line that you have to draw to ensure that they do not cross the line. You have asked many times the reason for the change in your son’s behaviour. The only reason is that he is growing up and now understands about sex. Since you have been passive in your behaviour, he is implying that you are welcoming his behaviour.
I find it odd that even earlier you have encouraged him to touch you and massage you without your innerwear. So what are worried about now? The point is that your acceptance of his behaviour will encourage him to go farther and end up in sex. This behaviour will influence the other children too and I presume that the boys are closely ranged in age. It is difficult if not impossible to prevent the other children from knowing what you both are up to.
I agree sex is a very important part of life and is a basic need, but as a mother of your children you need to be discrete and form relationships from outside that will not have a bearing on your children. Think carefully about the repercussions of your actions on your family. It is commendable that you have brought up your children single handed and they should look up to you with respect and gratefulness.
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You have left out the most important detail in your narration. The age of your son. Knowing his age is very important for us to give you a fair analysis of his behaviour. We know your age from your profile and that you have 4 children in the 5 years you were married. You say your husband married the second time, so are some of the children his from an earlier marriage?
You have been rather liberal in the bringing up of your children. No harm in that. But there is fine line that you have to draw to ensure that they do not cross the line. You have asked many times the reason for the change in your son’s behaviour. The only reason is that he is growing up and now understands about sex. Since you have been passive in your behaviour, he is implying that you are welcoming his behaviour.
I find it odd that even earlier you have encouraged him to touch you and massage you without your innerwear. So what are worried about now? The point is that your acceptance of his behaviour will encourage him to go farther and end up in sex. This behaviour will influence the other children too and I presume that the boys are closely ranged in age. It is difficult if not impossible to prevent the other children from knowing what you both are up to.
I agree sex is a very important part of life and is a basic need, but as a mother of your children you need to be discrete and form relationships from outside that will not have a bearing on your children. Think carefully about the repercussions of your actions on your family. It is commendable that you have brought up your children single handed and they should look up to you with respect and gratefulness.
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This is kind of a syndrome called as ‘oedipus complex’ where kids are attracted towards the parent of opposite sex sexually. For details you can search internet with this term.
Obviously he is attracted sexually towards you as most of his actions indicate it. like trying to touch you inappropriately or trying to show you his dick or staring at you while you dress . He is in his twenties and is raging with hormones . Might be he always have been attracted to elder women and you could be the perfect specimen to which he have any access to. Add to it his fond childhood memory of you having sex with your friend. So it might have incautiously ignited a bit of fire within him. So you better sit him and try to talk some sense with him .
Age wise he is mature enough that he could understand need and importance of sex in humans life and also tell him how inappropriate his advances are and how what he have been expecting is wrong. I am sure he would understand and everything would be fine. In short have an open dialogue. best luck.