Why is there passion in affairs but not in real love?
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Hello,
We say that affairs are always “wild and sweet”. If we ask a woman about her experience then she will try to deny it or make it emotional even if there was physical contact. Why? They do not like to share their physical adventure although it may have been wonderful.
I was watching a Japanese movie where the professor had an affair with the student. The female student was more excited then the professor. She was so wet that she wanted to have sex without a condom. The professor wanted to use the condom but she was not interested and wanted him inside her.
After having sex the Professor asked the female student “why were you so excited”?. The answered that she gave was beautiful that. She said ” We as women love only once whoever satisfies our emotional needs”.
“We can’t control our feeling in such kind of affairs”.
“The touch makes us so wild that we can’t compare it with our boyfriend or spouse”.
“I wanted to give you everything that I have like – My body, mind & soul – as I am not in the position to control myself “
It might be a movie from one angle but leaves lot of questions behind that
1.) What is difference between original love and a love affair?
2.) If you love somebody in real life then we hardly see such kind of wildness but in affairs there is always passion even if it don’t last long. Why?
3.) Why women can’t control themselves especially during affairs?
4.) Why do women run blindly behind emotional satisfaction ?
Thank You,
Bharat Shah
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Yours is a sweeping statement and not necessarily true. Even normal love starts with passion and it depends on the parties to either maintain it or let it reduce in intensity. Married love begins with infatuation or romantic love and develops into committed love and this rises and sinks based on their lives and their personalities.
Most affairs that take place, happen because the parties enjoy the feelings they get from each other and their interaction with the other person. Sex may not be central to that relationship, but invariably develops into a great sexual relationship, because you want to share and please the other person.
In love with your spouse, implies an understanding of what commitment is, a sensitivity to the feelings of your spouse, an ability to consider the needs of your spouse and the willingness to be honest and trustworthy.
The problem arises when romantic love falls prey to the daily stresses of life. Life always seems rosy on the other side of the bush, till you start living with that person on the other side.
A love “affair” is just that – short lived. It is an attraction to another person, based on what you want from that person at that point of time. It could be emotional support or a sexual outlet. People in an affair spend little “real” time together. It is life based on illusions and on secret fleeting moments, when real life does not exist. Here a partner is an object of desire and remains one, to fulfil their need for love.
So, the difference between married love and a love affair is: married love is unconditional. In a love affair, it is conditional and cannot survive the realities of daily life. In a love affair there is always a fear of loss, while marriage is associated with the comfort of knowing that you are loved and accepted as you are.
Do not base your observations on the passions that you see in the movies.
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the difference between original love and love affair is like driving the own car and driving the hired car / neighbors car
when we drive own car (original love) we will take all care like
a) open and close the door smoothly,
b) insert the key with due care n love so that there should be no scratch etc,
c) drive slowly in rough roads, and check for all pot holes in the road .
But when it comes to neighbors car or rented car (love affair), we tend to drive aggressively,
bang the door with all aggression , and drive the car like “formula one” driver in full passion . because the car is not ours it is with us for temporary time and soon it has to be given back with handsome rental.