Wife Wants More Sex than I Can Keep Up With
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My (30M) wife (28F) and I are intimate at least 2-3 times a week. She’s always asked about having sex even more than that though; she wants at least 1-2 times per day. Of late, she’s been really pushing for that again, and it’s been a topic she’s asked about in the past even when I was working normal hours and she was working too. I just don’t have the energy for that though. She’s currently in between jobs, and I’m working 55+ hours to make up for that. I’m tired all the time of late result, and, in addition to that, I just don’t have the libido for it. Libido-wise, I’ve always had a low sex drive in general; I only diddled myself as a teenager once or twice, I lost my v-card to another woman years after that, and then I met my wife the next year and have been having regular sex with her. Also, I’m not as active as I used to be, since I now work a desk job and haven’t been to the gym regularly in a couple of years, but, although I know it can improve libido for some, I never noticed a difference for the few years that I was going. Personally, I’m fine with sex maybe once every week or two, so I’m already compromising doing it 2-3 times per week that we currently are, and I’ve told her that I can’t keep up with any more than that, but she’s been pouting about it for two days now. Any advice?
Edit: Added new details to the post.
Edit 2: I’ve received a lot of very helpful responses (too many to reply to comfortably at this point). My takeaways here are going to be to try and practice going down on her more; see this as her way of being closer to me as I’m positive she wants the emotional connection moreso than the physical sensation at this point; and to maybe try some newer practices in the bedroom that aren’t as engaged as I usually am, like a remote vibrator that I control. Of course, I’ll also keep my own boundaries and needs in mind. We’ve always been a very forthright and considerate couple, so we don’t beat around the bush and always have the other in mind. I love her immensely, so I’ll do my best within reason to make her happy, and I have no doubt she will do the same. I intend to have another chat with her about this, so I’ll update you all when I have information there. Thanks!
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