Will my wife have an extra marital affair in the future?
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I am Rupesh, 28 years old and married. We met through a matrimonial site. When I told her about my wish to marry her, she asked for a little favour. When I asked what it is? She said she wants full freedom in her dressing and fashion. I agreed as I have wished for a wife like her, wearing beautiful hot dresses.
We got married 6 months ago. Recently we went for honeymoon. She chose the destinations (Goa, Andaman, Ooty, Kodaikanal, Munnar). At Goa and Andaman, we visited some beaches there. At the beach she asked me to wear only my shorts and she changed into her bikinis. At Goa she just roamed the whole city in her skinny leggings and tight T-shirts. And rest of the places she was in her transparent saree and sometimes shirt and tight skirt or skinny jeans.
She tries all kinds of fashion. In Goa and Andaman, she was not the only woman dressed skimpily, so I enjoyed her fully and later it gave me good arousal during sex. Even though I also enjoyed her body show, sometimes when I saw few men, mostly teenage guys, staring at her, making comments linking both of us, made me ashamed.
I also enjoy her body show but some comments are making me ashamed of her exposure. My wife does not have a pinch of shame in her mind. When I asked her about it, she told me that I shouldn’t be bothering about them. She also reminded me of my promise before marriage. From her words I clearly got the point that she enjoys those staring and hot comments.
Do you think she is misusing her freedom? Do you think such women will later fall for extra marital affairs?
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Rupesh Please note that one can not and should not judge anyone from the way one dresses . It does not matters much when you deal with promiscuity of a person. As you could find a woman carrying herself very traditionally as well in conservative attire while could be too promiscuous to believe. It does not at all depends upon dressing or being fashionable or not. As yours being a sort of arranged marriage you both could not have been known to each other too well before your marriage. And this is the time that you are discovering each other. But from your question it is clear that you already have started to doubt her morality.And remember when seed of doubt once sowed it quickly gets converted into tree. And its fruits are very poisonous. You are treading on very thin ice. Watch your steps. Its traditional thinking to think that fashionable women being promiscuous. If you still want to know
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Because your wife likes western fashions, it doesn’t make her any more likely to have an affair than any other woman. Try reading the numerous entries in our archives, and you will see that those who have affairs come from all social classes, and are both liberal and conservative in outlook.
Your wife wants to be a modern girl, just like billions of girls around the world. She wants to step away from a world where men decide how she behaves, what she wears, what she does, where she goes……. You can look at this with pride, as she’s a strong and determined free spirit, who has seen the man she hopes can understand her, love her, and support her in her wish to be an equal partner in a marriage she wanted, not that was forced on her. So what if other guys look at her, all that tells you is that they envy you, and its a reflection of your good choice of a life partner; they just wish…. You are the man she gets in bed with and shares her dreams with, they just wish….. You are the man who will father her babies, they just wish….. You are the man she laughs and cries with, shares her secrets with, they just wish…..
Nobody knows the future, but if you give her the love and happiness she hopes for, if you let her continue to be full of fun and confidence, and if you grow with her, you’ll stand a better chance than most people of having a long and happy future together. Keep having FUN together, and yes, enjoy travelling whenever you both can get away together.
Very best wishes for a long and happy, loving marriage.
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You yourself wants a hot and sexy wife. She like western clothing and ask about it before marriage. Now she is in western clothes and you also likes that.
But problem is that people are commenting on her and it is making you feel real bad. You can’t shut the people’s mouth.Thry will always comment you whatever they watch. Some comments infront of you and some behind your back. If she is in her bikini on Beaches then its normal. She is in her tshirts in shopping malls etc then its normal. It will be a problem if she starts wearing bikini and go to market. I think it is not so. She is modern and i think she has good sense of dressing.
You can’t tell if she is exposing her assets ina hot sexy way then she would have an extra marital affair. We have found women from traditional religious background have also affairs. Anybody can have affair and you can’t just tell it by looking at their clothes. You mention that she may enjoyed the comments. Yeah girls feel pleased when there beauty is praised and some like it. Its depends on individual. your wife is modern and you are little conservative man. Trust her and have a happy married life dude .!