My elder sister is being blackmailed into having sex. How to help her?
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Hi,
My name is Sandy and I want some serious advice for an ongoing problem in my elder sister’s life. She is 32 and married since 8 years. She has 2 school going children. Last year coincidentally she met her ex-boyfriend who came to Pune for work purpose. He invited her to his home saying he will introduce her to his wife but he took her to his friend’s flat and no one was there. He kissed her and after bit of hesitation my sister gave up and they both had sex. Next day, he took her to a nearby low budget guest house and again they had sex couple of times in the room. When she was coming back home a waiter followed her and came to know that they were not couple. Her ex-boyfriend went back to Kolkata.
Waiter started blackmailing my sister that he wants to have sex with her or he will tell everything to her husband. To save her family life she agreed to have sex but only for once. But that waiter did not keep his promise and continued to fuck her every time saying that this is the last time. He is doing this for past 1year now. That waiter is using my elder sister as sex worker any time he wants sex he calls her in his guest house room, makes her naked and enjoys complete sex with her for hours. I tried to talk to that waiter but he is not ready to listen anything. He said he is getting free sex from a beautiful housewife and will not give up. As per my sister many times he does not use condom and slaps her if she force him to use it.
Now situation has even got worse from last 3-4 time whenever my sister goes to his room there are 2-3 of his village friends already there and that waiter fucks my sister in front of everyone. His friends also enjoys live sex scene and they touch / squeeze her private parts very roughly. They also make teeth marks on her boobs & butt. She gets scared that if her husband sees any of this, she will be finished.
Me and my sister are completely confused and depressed how to come out of this situation as she is equally afraid that if she says no to have sex then the waiter can destroy her family life. She regrets the day she went to that guest house.
Really in tough time; please need genuine advice.
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Dear Sandy,
After going through your question, I am unable to convince my mind that your problem is real one, because there are some drastic points which compels me to think so these are:
Firstly: The description given by you about your sister having sex with waiter as if you are also viewing live sex of her, it means while you are telling the story you are enjoying it, it doesn’t seems a problem.
Secondly: Your sister and the waiter having sex since last one year to hide it from her husband, how can it be possible, that someone’s wife fucking with with strangers regularly and the husband could know nothing for such a long time, so its a bogus question,
Thirdly if your question is genuine one than there is nothing to be worried because your sister has became a whore, she is enjoying it, now she can’t give it up, she is telling you this only to show that she is innocent, so you can do nothing for her situation, it is only she who can come out of this.
Don’t think much have a nice time.
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There is a lot wrong with this question. It sounds more like a fantasy than anything else. Either that, or the person being described is the writer of the question, who doesn’t want to be identified.
The woman in question, if we take for one moment that this question is genuine, was easy enough to seduce. It sounds like her ex-boyfriend only needed to click his fingers, and she was there, ready to have sex with him. That was on their first meeting. On the subsequent occasion, she willingly went with him to a cheap hotel, and again had sex with him.
This is the point at which the story starts to become ridiculous. How does the waiter discover that they are not a married couple? How does he know where she is, in order to contact her for blackmail purposes? And why would she agree to meet him for sex unless she actually wants more sexual adventures?
I’m actually surprised that this story doesn’t reach a climax with her having sex with the waiter and all his friends, with her every orifice staffed with huge cocks, and gallons of semen filling her mouth, and dripping from her breasts. That would be the usual closing paragraph for such a tale.
She would have to have an extremely intimate relationship with her younger brother if she was going to disclose all this information, together with such details of the things she is doing with this waiter and his friends, and the fact that no condom is being used. If this has been going on for a year, one has to wonder whether she is taking contraception of some kind, as the likelihood of pregnancy would be high.
We are talking about a woman with two children, and a husband. I find it difficult to believe that she could successfully run her household, look after her children and her husband, and find the time for hours and hours of sex with multiple male partners. And this is before you even consider how much time off a waiter in a cheap hotel is likely to have.
On the tiny off chance that this is a genuine plea for help, I can only say that she has dug a huge hole for a self by getting involved in a really sordid ménage. She can continue getting fucked, and in all likelihood, enjoying it. Or she can call the waiter’s bluff. In all likelihood, if her husband is much of a man, the waiter would be in serious trouble. If her husband isn’t much of a man in the first place, maybe that would explain why she has taken a liking to extramarital fun.
I’m sorry, but I really don’t believe that this is a true story. For all the reasons I have written above, and it just sounds like a young guy’s masturbatory fantasy to me.
By the way, if you want to fantasise about your sister getting fucked by groups of men, that’s fine, as long as it stays only a fantasy that you don’t relate to others. Unless of course, she genuinely does like to be fucked by lots of men.
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If you talk to her about incident then she will never accept it instead, she will respond negatively to conceal her actions. You may ask your wife to look into the matter, as woman can understand woman better. The goon you are talking about might be horrific character for you and for other people but same may not be true for her.
If possible then shift your home (I presume it would not be easy for you) but if you really want to save your sister from unnecessary trouble you should change your home. You can make any false story to shift home. Moreover, do not try to talk to that goon otherwise; he will also fight with you to bury his mischief. You are in difficult situation so act smartly to come out of such circumstances.
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Your worries regarding the wellbeing of your sister are very understandable. But do remember that they both are consenting adults and as your title of the question entails about ‘ saving’ her does not stands well as one can’ save’ the other from doing or refrain from doing something if it has been forced on that person. Here she very willingly has been indulging in relations with this’ BAD GUY’ to say so.
We all know that opposites attracts each other. So here too she is overwhelmed with him. His so called ‘power’ his social standing though negative And if your suspicions are true may be his sexual prowess. May be owing to the number of relations he have had he might have an idea and knowledge of turning a woman on and giving her mind-blowing orgasms! We only can guess. You can get many such examples of ‘Bad boy’ phenomenon in Bollywood too. Even his dirty sweaty appearance or rough lifestyle could have been a great turn on for her. Remember smell of sweat or other body fluids could be very tempting .(Not necessarily always and to everyone)
So now let us just assume that she for sure is having a physical relations with this ‘ bad guy’. You seem to be more concerned about the reputation of your family and its stature in society and understandablly so! If she is as learned and as well placed financially independent then she must be knowing what she has been doing.
And at the age you both siblings are i think you two should be real nice friends with each other who should be able to discuss every topic frankly with each other. But if you feel that its being little awkward situation then you can pretend that some one (may be a friend of yours ) saw someone leaving your home on given particular night (when you would again spot him) And ask her whether she had any guests over at to her in night . If she accepts okay if denies then again you can pretend that there are rumors flowing around the locality of her having her affair with this guy. But then you have to assure her that you do not have that strong objection about this but just make her aware that utmost precautions should be taken that this all should be discreet and she should take precautions regarding STDs and pregnancy etc. Its very very hard buddy to accept your married sister behaving this way but then life is hard and bitter sometimes . We only can pray that prudence would prevail her and she would be safe. And also do not forget to warn her about problem of an emotional involvement.
And in a way i presume you have kept your real name her. If that would not have been the case you could have shown her this discussion to know her views and she would have realized the truth and would have got much more insight, too! Best luck. keep calm n cool.
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Rajeev, Make it clear that your sister is not that innocent that you would like to believe. Otherwise she would not have responded to this goon in the first place. And why she spread and have been spreading her pretty legs for him is known only to her.
However we can only guess it and that too as pointed in my answer ,means attraction to the ‘bad guy’.
May be she could be a moaner in bed while having sex and moaning in sexual frenzy and passion does seems like someone is quivering in pain.However in fact she could very well might have been enjoying the greatest orgasams of her life at that instant.
And she being used as his ‘sex toy’ unfortunately we can not rule out that possibility. It depends upon how much she have been under his spell!
Another possibility also is in her subconscious she could have been a submissive streak within her and he might have got a hold on her by making her submissive to his sexual whims and wants. She might have been liking to be in his control.
And sharing her with his friends that too is possible i am afraid to tell you. Because its the ultimate macho way to prove his so called ‘mastery’ over her in front of his friends. Or this way such studs thinks. Showing off his friends how he owns this pretty , middle aged educated wife!
Only thing in your hand is to have a direct or indirect conversation with her and making her aware how she has been playing with fire in every sense. We do not want watching her clip on some random desi site by any mean. And remember this quite could be a probability. So have a word with her as early as possible and try to put some sense in her pretty head.
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Rajeev, Are you confident now that she is having sexual fling with this goon guy? Or its still a hazy picture? As suggested have you asked her directly/ indirectly?
We do not know how young her kid is but if he/ she(kid) is able to talk you can ask. him/ her where she roams around with kid after confirming your whereabouts!
Its quite clear that if she have been meeting this guy then obviously it could not be for’ satsang’!
And again sharing her with his friends depends upon how much spell he have upon her. If she likes to be ordered around , submissive in nature and desperately wanted to keep this evil guy pleased she absolutely could do anything to please him and anyways once she had had sex with him it wont matter much morally for her to have sex with guy/s he points at!
Whether she could back out or not,well friend man and woman are complimentary to each other and at present he is giving her the feeling of being a complete woman somehow. So again its a involvement and its degree which could determine her chances, willingness to restrain herself.
The way you have described this mans personality , in my opinion such men are very confident and demanding by nature , if they do not have their way they could become violent too to certain extent thereby creating fear on his subject. So i think she have no say in whatever he wants. She would obey it with the drop of the hat and would have been enjoying it instead of fighting it off.
He actually have been blackmailing her emotionally otherwise how can a well educated married working beautiful mom would follow his orders and if this not being the case may be he could have threatened to harm you or kid or her or any of your members of family so she would have began to foloow him in first place.
Yes he might have been completely treating him as his woman, owned by him. If she keeps obeying him he would be happy.
I have tried to answer your queries as you wanted that is in details i hope you would find these useful but buddy first have a word with her anyhow. Show her this discussion or ask her to put her side here we would try to help her in case she needs any help. Go out man have a word with her.