How to find a soulmate and make first time sex memorable?
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Hi Anjali Aunty,
I am writing this with utmost concern. Please help me with your advise. I have never had sex. I really want my first sex with my soul mate to be memorable. I am yet to find my soulmate. I am a one woman man and I am 26 years old now.
I never had an affair before and I will have one and only one affair and that is with my soulmate. I believe that she will come at the right time into my life.
My doubt is that, I have heard from lots of places that first love and first sex will always be memorable. I want my soulmate to be my first and best in love and sex. I also strongly wish to be the first love and first (one and only) sex partner to my soulmate. Could you please tell me the possibility of getting such a girl as everyone says it is difficult to get a girl like this in this era? Am I going correctly? What are your thoughts on this. Can you help me with this situation of mine?
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It is nice to know that you are innocent and believe everyone else is as innocent and noble in thoughts as you are. Unfortunately Life is not like that. It is full of reality. Love is an emotion that often strikes when you least expect it. You may do all the planning and want a pure and virgin partner, but things in reality could be different.
Your first information to us, is that you have not had sex. It means this is playing on your mind. While it is not bad to imagine that the first person you love, should reciprocate your love, it may be unwise to expect that person to be like you – a virgin.
You will find your soulmate, but it may take some sampling, i.e. you may fall into and out of love a couple of times, before you find your soulmate. What do you mean by soulmate? You may be a one woman man (good thought), but what happens if the woman is not a one man, woman?
You are right about one’s first love and first sex. But very rarely does this happen with the same person! Preserve your ideals, come what may. But remember Time waits for no man or woman, and we must bend with time and accept Life’s harsh realities.
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First love and sex always be memorable there is no need to do anything special as first time sex itself memorable. You can do such things like; never expect that your first time sex must be like that way or this way. Otherwise, you will be end up with upsets as we can never able to perform as per our wish or preplanning as in the act there are two persons involve and both of you have different thinking and different needs from the sex and relationship so it is hard to match up.
You have mentioned that you have yet to find your girl so try to find a girl first, sex is secondary and one more thing there is nothing impossible to find a dream girl. If you are looking for beautiful girl then you need to understand that if you have a successful career you will be definitely find a beautiful girl without much efforts and easily. Therefore, you need to concentrate on your career first than girl.
I could see from your description that you have lots expectations from your coming partner or you are almost obsessed with your coming partner. Let me tell you that your expectations may cause your relationship stressful so do not expect too much things from life as life is like that. You should have to look for love and honest partner whether she is virgin or not as for men virginity is matte but virginity is something to do with women’s emotional not with her body.
Right now, your priority must have your career, rest of things life and situation will teach you. Life will never act as per our wish and that is the beauty of life.
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Being the first love of a girl is possible but being the first and last sex partner of a girl is a bit difficult but not impossible. Its not like you can ask a girl her name, age, interests and if she is a virgin or not; so this is a sensitive issue. There is no harm in expecting a virgin because you’re one yourself but don’t be hell bent on it.
Other than a mere tissue, there is nothing in a virgin woman; give importance to love when you’re in a relationship other than these issues. Its true that first love is indeed memorable and hard to forget, but first sex, the reality is that it just gets messy. No one would want to remember their first sex because it is filled with pain, tears and fear. But you can still get women who are indeed virgin, just don’t be hell bent on it.
What would you do when you find the perfect woman who is in love with you and vice-versa but you find out that she isn’t a virgin? Would you leave her or would you learn to adapt yourself to the fact that she loves you completely? Love has a pretty big role to play in a relationship than sex, so find yourself a person who loves you completely for what you’re and not your physical attributes.
Let us just say, you happen to meet and fall in love with a woman who has been sexually abused in her past; would you leave her because she isn’t a virgin or would you stay with her because she loves you? Expecting a virgin bride is not bad, but don’t be under the false impression that virgin woman are the best. There is no way you can know if a woman is virgin or not unless you ask her, but do you think a woman would be okay with you asking her about her virginity?