How to respond to hubby’s strange and weird fantasies?
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I am 31 years old married female and having one kid. Our sex life was great till our kid but after that it has fallen apart or you can say there are some strange changes in my husband. For fun part me and husband started to watch porn together which is a good fun at times but he often like to try weird things in real life like they show in porn. He often try something kinky and even like to put me in weird situations. He tells and likes if i expose myself or display our love moments at times by showing its not intentional. According to him such things excites him so much. I also feel happy whenever he gets excited but what i feel bad about that he often puts me in very awkward situations which is so hard to handle at times. I tried to talk about it to my husband but he often gets angry and keep saying baby its just about fun.
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Experimenting in sex is fine, and you can do whatever you both enjoy doing, no matter what that may be. However, the important thing to remember is this: you shouldn’t be forced to do anything you don’t want to, neither should you force anyone else to do something they are not comfortable with.
Horse sex life is therefore both of you to enjoy, it’s not his pleasure like that is important. If you really feel uncomfortable about anything he wants you to do, or wants to do to you, you must steel yourself to have an argument about this if necessary. I’m sure there are plenty of things that you can both to power extremely satisfying, and if you sit and talk to each other honestly and openly, you can reveal a world of pleasure that you can share.
As I always say, there is no ‘good’ or ‘bad’ activity in sex, as long as you both share the pleasure in it. Doesn’t matter what you do, so long as you both want to do it. When one person forces the other to do something they don’t want, is termed as sexual assault. So, talk to each other with a couple of glasses of wine after your child is safely tucked up in bed. I’m sure that if he is a reasonable man, he might be a bit cross at 1st, if he understands it hurts your feelings, or embarrasses you, then he can modify his behaviour. Don’t be afraid to express your own desires and needs, as a genuinely good lover will always want to know how to give you as much pleasure as possible. And try to accommodate things he fantasises about and wants to try with you. Last fall though, don’t allow yourself to be coerced into doing something you find abhorrent.
Best wishes,
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go lady go !!!
if you respect love him then compromise but if you respect yourself then have some limit