I feel like I want sex with my wife all the time and I don’t know how to deal with it
I [47M] have been with my wife [42F] for 23 years and have been married for 20. She’s the only woman I’ve ever really been attracted to (and even then, I only really became attracted to her after we knew each other for a year and had dated for another) and the only one I’ve ever had sex with either. Once I felt that for her, my libido absolutely skyrocketed and it hasn’t gone down since.
I’ve never told her quite how high my drive is. I find myself wanting her 3-4 times a day, but I don’t want her to feel pressured or to think all I think about or want from her is sex. I adore her, and quite frankly, if I could make my sex drive truly be what she thinks it is (roughly the same as hers, that is), I absolutely would. It’s very frustrating when I just want to cuddle or appreciate a conversation or a bath together or a movie and instead feel so horny.
I don’t know if this is normal (I certainly know that the way I feel attraction isn’t quite normal), but if it is, how does anyone deal with this? I’ve tried supplementing with masturbation, but it just doesn’t scratch the right itch. I suppose at the end of the day it’s just nice to say this, even if nothing changes I’ll be perfectly happy, if always a touch frustrated with my body.