My Cousin has given me hanjobs at night, but isn’t ready for sex. Why?
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Hello Everyone,
My name is Nitesh and I am 24 years old. I’m from the southern part of India. I have a cousin sister who is 20 years old. She is very beautiful and I always wanted to touch her.
I got that opportunity when she came to stay with us for 2 weeks. As we used the same room I used to touch her in the night. Initially, I was afraid. But after 2 -3 days she started to respond, like whenever I tried fondling her breasts she used to remove her bra and pretend like she was sleeping.
It even got better after a week. I start the action while she is sleeping and she used to guide me in sleep. Like fingering her and fondling her breasts naked and she started to give me a hand job, pretending to be asleep and next day she would act normally.
Everything was going fine. I wanted to take the next step so I confessed everything to her. She was totally cool and said these are normal and let’s not talk about this. I was happy as I got the green signal from her. She left my house after her stay.
During her next vacation, she came back to my house. She decided to stay for a couple of days. I was very happy because that day nobody was there in my house. I wanted to have foreplay with her. But I was afraid to ask her. She was cleaning Utensils and I wanted to grab her from behind but I didn’t want to force her.
So with great fear, I asked her for foreplay and started rubbing her back. She said NO. I asked her period date and she said it was over but let’s not do it. I asked her again and again but she said no. I finally gave up and said sorry to her.
Why isn’t she ready for sex?
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There is a simple reason behind her denial which is she changed her mind that she does not want to continue with you onwards so now stay away from her as you do not have a right to force her. She did something in the past so you should consider yourself lucky enough to get those opportunities in the past and you can always fantasize those moments but that does not mean that she has to keep doing what she did in the past.
However, if in the future she does show any sign that she wants something from you then you can grab that thing from where you left the last time but right now consider her no means no and stay away from her.
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I think you have handled the whole situation badly. Some women/girls do not like to verbalize what is going on in their heads. By putting it into words you have forced her to think abou her actions. This has made her feel guilty.
First time, you said that you confessed to her. What was there to confess? You know she was aware of what you were doing and willingly gave you a handjob in the cover of darkness. All this shows your inexperience in handling women and what they desire.
The seconf time, that she visited you, was she sleeping in another bed? You never ask a women for foreplay. You should always let it happen. You said when she was in the kitchen, you wanted to grab her…..poor idea. You could have sneaked in from the back and covered her eyes and then moved your hands lower, depending on her reaction.
Find out, if she has a boyfriend at present. That would make things difficult for you. Women like to be teased and playfully patted or tickled. You never ask a woman for sex…that is crass and will rarely give you the results you want.
Stop asking. Every moment possible hold her and touch her. She just may give in again.