Should an Indian girl stop wearing short dresses after marriage?
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I am 28 years old, from an average middle class Bengali family. I am used to wearing short skirts, hot pants, short tops, any short type of dresses I mean, a little bold outfits around the house.
After got married I am very much happy with my hubby. He has no issue about my clothes. I dress up according to place, society, environment and person; it’s just the respect to the cultures and elders. I had never worn any short dresses in front my mother and father-in-law or any other hubby’s family or any stranger except my two sister-in-laws. But MIL and FIL used to see me in Jeans with long tops at home.
One month ago my in laws wanted to return back to their house after visiting our town. That morning accidently I was caught half nude by my MIL. My hubby went to washroom and I prepared to change the bedcover wearing only a thong panty and very short tops. When I turned back I was surprised to see my mother-in-law in my bed room. She observed me head to toes and without saying a word she turned back with a smiling face. I know I have a gorgeous figure but also it was embarrassing moment for me and I felt very much shy in front my MIL.
My mother-in-law shared the incident with my elder sister-in-law, who is 26 years and married. My SIL also noticed her that I used to walk around the house wearing very short clothes even outside when we visited abroad. As per her gossiping my mother-in-law complained to my hubby and also told my mother, father even my father-in-law. She told them that I have to stop wearing short clothes even at home because I am their daughter-in-law and its goes against Indian culture.
I have no complaints against my in-laws because they are my family and I think they didn’t like their daughter-in-law in short dresses even when she was alone.
My hubby and younger SIL 21 yo have no issue about my clothes because both are much closer to me. But my ender SIL always feels jealous of me.
My questions are:
Should I stop wearing short dresses?
Does not an Indian married girl or women have any right or choice to wear whatever she wants after marriage?
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We live in a hypocritical world. While on the one hand we talk about equality for men and women, on the other hand we dictate what women should wear and how they should behave.
You have a difficult job. The act of balancing. While you would like to experience freedom and do what your heart desires, you also must take into account the culture in India. Irrespective of status and income, Indian Families, want to maintain tradition.
It is good to know that you respect your Elders and are aware of their feelings. As long as you have your husband on your side, do not make it and issue and stress your husband with their views. In a comment, you have mentioned that your in laws were only visiting and so are not staying with you. Be smart, when they are around, be prissy and obedient.
It is best to wear teeny-weeny bikinis and see through bras when you are holidaying on the beach, away from family and known faces. I am sure you would like to see the gleam on your husband’s face rather than the tension lines on him.
Play smart. Be wicked in the Bedroom and when only you two are together. Close the windows and remain nude for the day or weekend. Have fun wisely.