Urge to have sex with a lady in my colony. How to handle?
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I am a 22 year old male. Since 10 std I’ve had this wild urge to have sex with mature women of ages 30 to 50.There is a lady in our colony who might be in her late 30’s or early 40’s.
This lady is a mother of three and has got some prominent body features. She used to talk to me until I approached her . Once while coming from college I met her on market road, and I asked her out saying “Can I say something aunty ” to which she said ” yes beta tell me “.
I said ” I like you aunty, your behavior, dressing (saree) ,walking style, I like everything “to which she said ” I am like your mother “. I said “please do not go in colony and complain this to anybody ” and after that she avoided eye contact but her face turned red.
After this day she never maintained eye contact with me and never spoke to me. She never complained to anyone either. Should I take this as a small yes or a stern no or is she afraid of the after effects of our relationship?
Should I just go to her and apologies or apply some more pressure on her to get her in bed or just leave it to her. Nowadays I have also started to neglect her just the way she has been doing.
Please Anjali aunty give me a good piece of advice .
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Dear I can fully understand the lust you have for such fully blossomed women in general and towards this woman in particular! As long as such attarction remains passive and untold it does not do any harm to anyone ! ?But as you have taken the risk of expressing your attraction to her you have gone a step ahead among the guys who happens to have such a fatal attraction ! Yes i am saying this being a fatal attraction because it could be very dangerous for both of your lives! But i know that it willnot be of any use to give you any prudent advice as you have been taken fully by her beauty or body!
As she had kept mum about your adventure with her I think you can do two things
1) Just ignore her as she has been ignoring you and see carefully weather she gives you any look or not!
2) then after somedays again try to approach her on the pretex of thanking herfor keeping her mum about your misbehaviour and who knows you could enter in her good books and even events could take favourable turns from your point of view ! But please do not impose yourself on her ever as she being a married woman and mother It could destroy her life as well as yours with the reputation of your family! Act thinking ahead all the consequenses of your any action Best of luck
prashant
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There are two things she said that are an indication. She called you beta and said, she is like your mother. Do you need any more signs?
You will complicate matters if you persue further. There is a huge possibility that she may slap you in public or confront your parents with your odd behaviour. I am sure you will not like both the actions. There is presently nothing that you can or should do. Just be patient and let her make the first move. By ignoring her, you will be getting no where. Be normal and wish her or smile at her when you pass by. Stop staring. Are you a road side romeo with no class?
To bed a woman, treat her like a friend. There is no reason for this mature woman to risk her reputation by going to bed with you.
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As other have mentioned, it’s quite natural for young men to get attracted to and fantasize about older women; like most of us, I have also gone through the phase. However, whether the opposite is true or equally prevalent at least in India society, is very very doubtful. And even if there are some women who do feel so, they will be very reluctant to express it; they will be too concerned about morality and confidentiality.
She may not have complained about your behavior to anyone till now, at least not to your knowledge. However, she has also been avoiding you. This, I think, indicates that she is not interested in such an affair at all. If she were, she would have made some pretext to speak to you – even if it is to tell you that what you did was wrong, thus giving you a chance to explain your situation or take it forward. She has not done that – means, she doesn’t want this to go ahead at all.
My suggestion would be, forget about the incident; if at all you come across her in a situation where you have to speak to each other in front of other people, behave as if nothing has happened.
We can fantasize all we want about anyone; but acting on it can affect too many people, not just the persons involved, there are families also to consider about.
All the best to you.