Does my wife’s friend know that I’ve a crush on her?
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This is my first question and having read many of the answers of previous questions posted by users which were answered very well, I thought I should ask my own, but I would like to give a bit of background first.
Several years ago my wife and I moved to big city as I got a job there, and though the job did pay well, we were trying to save up and therefore decided to share a large apartment with another family. It was only after we moved in we found out the husband was very abusive towards his wife and they were not in a happy relationship. The husband would spend weeks away from his wife and sometimes months on end. Anyways we both became very friendly with this woman and the rest is history.
This woman also had her sister (who was also divorced with a child) and she would come visit very often (sometimes stay for weeks). Again, we all live together as one big happy family. After several months the woman we originally moved in with got married elsewhere and moved to another city and we too moved to another city as I changed jobs. But her sister who had her own place in the big city remained there.
My job still takes me back to the big city every couple of weeks and as she (the sister) was now a family friend, my wife would send over nice food we had cooked when i went over. I would play with her son for a while and then I would leave. Anyways several times when I went over I noticed she would stare at me and then when i looked at her, she would look away.
I thought this was not normal behaviour, but i didn’t mention anything to her and least of all my wife. Several weeks after, I went over to her house and she had been shopping and had just got home, (around 8pm she was delayed by traffic on the bus she was travelling on) and her son she had left with a friend. I offered to drive her to her friends house in my car and we just talked about general stuff. As she was leaving my car, I said it may be best not to tell my wife about me giving her a ride in my car, she agreed and and I squeezed (softly) her knee/thigh area. She allowed me to do this (it was only for a couple of seconds), and we said goodbye and she left my car.
Some time after this we talked sometimes on the phone (wasnt really about anything in particular, just things that were happening in her life) and I used to come over to her house (her son was always there) and nothing happened. Anyways we agreed we wont tell my wife about the phone calls or me visiting as she would take it the wrong way, then one day she asked me if everything was okay between me and my wife, I asked her why she was asking but she said she was just thinking and it wasnt for any real reason. I told her the usual stuff but didnt go into any real details.
Another time I visited her whilst her son was at school and as it was almost time for her to collect him, I offered her a ride in my car and again we spoke for a short while and again as she was leaving i squeezed her thigh (slightly higher this time).
My question is does she understand my intention, I dont think its hard to miss!? Also how can i progress with this girl that I lust after? I dont think propositioning her will work as she will just reject. I believe I can trust her as this far she hasnt told my wife anything, but would like to know how I can tackle this situation.
Thanks for all your help people!
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You are going well slowly and steadily. You are giving her proper signals and it feels like even she is also intrested or else she would have objected in your first move.
You have keep patience in such things. As you are having doubts even she might be having doubts. It might take time for her to open up . And its good that even u are not directly jumping to the point. The thing you can do is talk more with her gain her confidence and then she will open up with you about her doubts and fear. Even she would be thinking wether its morally okay or not, if somebody come to know what will happen,guilt feelings etc. Just try to keep on communicating with her more talk to her meet her you’ll probably come to know what she feels and what should u do.
Waiting for your feedback…… kamikaze
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There is no doubt, she must understand your intention as it was not normal behavior of yours as well as hers, no woman would allow any man to touch her thighs unless she wants to go further. She gives you silent positive answer for to proceed further now it is up to you how you take this opportunity. She was okay for not to disclose your meeting to your wife and she allowed you two times to squeeze her thighs it is simply means that she does not have any problem with you.
If you make your mind to fuck her than this is great opportunity, you have, go ahead. However, you did not mention that why do you want to cheat your wife? Does she is boring at bed or your friend is more beautiful than she is. If you start extra marital affairs, then this relationship definitely affect your relationship with your wife. If you are sure that, you can handle both relationships than you may think of going ahead otherwise it is better if you abstain yourself as such relationship are momentary not permanent.
You also need to think that if somehow your wife come to know about your relationship with other than her, then are you able to handle the situation. If your friend demands open relationship with you after sometime than can you make her understand that it is not possible for you as you are married. One thing you need to understand is that for woman sex is not her first priority it is possible that she will look emotional support from you. Therefore, in near future she may become emotionally dependence on you and that is very hard time for you to handle the situation. Therefore, You need to take decision with keeping all the facts in mind as you can easily make sexual relationship with your friend as per your description she is ready to take this relationship further.
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What is your objective in this? If you want to wreck your marriage, fine, you are on course for that. If you want sex with this woman, what happens next?
Why do men only think with their cocks? Yes, she may well accede to your lust, and have sex with you, it may even be a full blown affair, but then what? This woman is divorced with a child, and if she’s like most women, she’s looking at middle age without a partner, and is dreading the very thought of it. If you want to divorce your wife and marry this woman, at least have the decency and courage to admit it to yourself, and to your innocent wife, who has, as far as we know, done nothing to deserve this cowardly skulking behaviour of yours.
I’m impressed, with one idiotic action, you could destroy your own life, your wife’s, children’s, this other woman’s, and her daughter’s life and future happiness. For one stupid act, that’s an impressive train crash you’re thinking about.
For God’s sake, grow up. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should!!!!