Should I be freaking out or is this normal?
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engaged and will be marrying soon. I am an avid porn watcher and mainly watch gangbangs, anal, hardcore, brutal, deepthroat stuff and masturbate regularly. I love to read porn stories. I have a feeling to fuck every now and then. Everytime I see a girl, I just ogle at her boobs in the begining and then think about banging her. Is this normal? It is not like I am a virgin. I had my first sex last year with a prostitute and felt very disgusted after that.
I then promised myself, I will never have sex with a stranger. I had sex with her wearing a double condom. I feared contracting a disease because I inserted my finger into her vagina but thank god it was fine. I had a Medical test for a policy couple of months ago and came to know they took Elisa test to check for HIV. So basically that horror is out of my mind but still sometimes I have thoughts about that unfaithful day and it saddens me.
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To imagine about sex all the day is consider common for grown up boy like you so there is nothing unusual in you. It is also normal to watch porn, reading sexual stories and to look at random girl for sex. As far as your hard-core sex, want to bang any girl is your personal preferences therefore there is nothing abnormal which needs particular attention to cure. It is also good that you had done HIV test and found out negative. Regular masturbation is not good for you so reduce it frequency (2 or 3 times a week). However, masturbation is normal psychological act and done by all unmarried men so you are not alone but under the influence of porn masturbation is not good. To stop masturbation self-control is the only way.
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See friend, it depends! Depends in the sense, if your asking about the morality issue I don’t really think its correct because one amongst those females can also be your sisters, friends, your relatives or even your going to be wife for others. Imagine others staring at your loved ones like this! Leaving aside the morality issue, it is natural and normal for men to comment on the opposite sex, not just in India but in every part of the world. Its just human nature. Right or wrong just depends on you and just you! And having sex doesn’t have any barrier you can have sex whenever you want to provided how maturely you deal with the situation. You had sex with a prostitute right? Now you can’t change the past, concentrate on your present and future. Try knowing your to be wife much better. Talk to her know her interests, make her feel comfortable with you and leave all such rubbish things. Concentrate on the beautiful phase that is coming your way. Of course it solely depends on what you consider it to be. But don’t worry you have a good and a very great life ahead for you think of that, buck up and be happy. Cheers!
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As a Bachelor, the life you live is a rather common, where you have no strings attached. Porn and masturbation rules your life just now. We all appreciate the female form and shamelessly ogling seems to be a past time. But obviously all this will need to change since you are now engaged and will shortly marry.
Start the change now. No wife will tolerate to see her husband ogle at another woman. If your wife is conservative and has not experienced sex before marriage, then you can expect a troubled married life if you continue in the vein you are now doing. Since you are into hard porn what happens when your wife refuses to entertain all your fantasies? Ever thought about it? A sure recipe for seeking sex outside marriage.
The blemish about your past could possibly be about visiting a prostitute and having sex. It is not wise to use 2 condoms at the same time. Many are under the wrong notion that a double barrier will offer greater protection. This is not true. The chance of slippage is greater where there are 2 condoms as there is less friction and it can slip off.
I was not aware that when issuing a Policy, an Elisa test is conducted. But I would advise you to get an HIV Test independently done as you are soon going to be married. Since you have had a history of sex, before marriage, some precautions will not hurt. Your statement that you will never have sex again with a “stranger” is suggestive. Do you mean you will have sex after marriage, with someone you know?